Can't orgasm

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Registered: 01-07-2007
Can't orgasm
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Sun, 05-06-2007 - 11:39am

Heya,

I have a really frustrating problem... Over the past couple of weeks, I've stopped being able to have an orgasm... If I masturbate everything feels normal but then my clit just goes kind of numb at the crucial moment and no matter how hard I try I can't quite get there... I've never had this problem before... Does anybody have any ideas?

Thanks,
Clare.

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Registered: 01-21-2007
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 11:48am
Hi Clare! I have had this exact same thing happen to me if I masturbate too much or too rough. Have you been using a vibrator, and if you have, have you used it often? That could be what's going on. Sometimes it can do something to the nerves in your clitoris...but don't worry, it's only temporary and your feeling will come back! Thank God huh? When I feel the numbness I just hold off on the vibrator and I quit masturbating all together for a little while until I get the feeling back. I don't think you should worry, but if it continues for a long period of time I would contact your gyno. Hope things get better!
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 11:57am
Sometimes it's just hormones fluctuating, or stress. Also, you could be "worrying" it away. The more you worry about it, the less likely it will happen. You say nothing about having a partner....so if you're just masturbating alone, you're focusing on that, and making it a "goal" never works. Just go at it as a pleasure....and if it works, fine, if not....try again another time. If you've been capable of orgasms, they'll come back.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 3:46pm

Welcome to the board Clare.

Sometimes this can happen when you are concentrating too hard on the goal (the orgasm) instead of just enjoying the pleasure. Also if you masturbate often, especially with a vibrator, then you can become desensitized to it.

If masturbating without a vibrator, try to relax and enjoy what you are feeling without thinking about an orgasm. If using a vibrator, try taking a break from it for a week or so and see if that makes a difference.



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