Can't Orgasm, am I broken ?

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Registered: 04-18-2007
Can't Orgasm, am I broken ?
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Wed, 04-18-2007 - 9:55pm
My boyfriend & I have been having sex for almost half a year now, almost eveyday too. It's going very well, the only problem is that I have never had an orgasm while we have sex. The foreplay is amazing, & I always have one, but when it comes to sex, I think I am broken. I don't know what to do, I get so frustrated with myself, & now my boyfriend thinks he is terrible in bed. Something that could be so amazing, just seems like a chore to get my boyfriend to go. Any Ideas, or should I just suck it up & stick to my foreplay ?
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 10:23pm

Do you use your fingers on your clitoris as you are having intercourse? Does he use his fingers?

Someone will throw the percentage at you, but many women don't orgasm through intercourse alone - they need more stimulation than just penis in vagina can provide. So try using fingers, a vibrator, or pick some moves and positions where he can "grind" and rub the base of his penis against you. Onepositon that is good is the missionary but he scoots up the bed 6 inches so he's 6" higher up your body as you have intercourse. That lines things up better so that the base of his penis will rub against you.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 10:36pm

Hi Brittany and welcome to the board.

As Westridge already said, many women don't orgasm through penetration alone. You might want to check out the website the-clitoris.com and have your BF look at it with you. This should help alleviate any fear he may have about what kind of lover he is.

There are positions that can help stimulate the clitoris during intercourse (IC). Have you tried woman on top (WOT), or missionary with your legs over his shoulders -- anything that will allow his body to come in contact with your clitoris. Also, manually stimulating the clitoris (your fingers, his fingers or a vibrator) during IC will help. A position that is fairly successful for DH and me, and allows him to rub my g-spot frequently is a "T" shape. I lie on my back, him on his side facing me. Then one of my legs is over his body (or I hold it up in the air) and the other leg is between his legs. This is also a great position to add the clitoral stimulation.

Also, if you are worried that you won't orgasm, you probably won't. You need to relax and enjoy the pleasure that you are feeling -- not be anxious for "the orgasm".



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