Cant...quite...get...there...

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-20-2007
Cant...quite...get...there...
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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 5:40pm

Hi Everyone,


I'm in need of some advice.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2006
Fri, 12-21-2007 - 2:05am

You can't do anything to help him........except DROP it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-20-2007
Fri, 12-21-2007 - 2:58am
Unfortunately he is complaining and he's clearly not satisfied.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2007
Fri, 12-21-2007 - 5:42am

"I hate you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2006
Fri, 12-21-2007 - 8:52am

Ok, so maybe he's feeling sorry for himself.......and I don't doubt that's exacerbating the problem.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 12-21-2007 - 9:51am

Welcome to the board, natureskandi.

How often is he masturbating? What's he using for stimulation during masturbation?

Both of those things can play in to his ability to perform when he's with you (or a past lover). During masturbation, he can get a better grip with his hand, and he can get the sensations he needs, when he needs them. If that's the case, then holding back from masturbation should help him retrain his reactions so that he can climax during intercourse.





iVillage Member
Registered: 12-20-2007
Fri, 12-21-2007 - 10:22am

"Maybe he grew up with a religious belief that premarital sex is sinful......or with parents that taught him that sex is nasty and dirty and decent people don't do those things.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2007
Fri, 12-21-2007 - 12:47pm
I wouldn't worry too much about it. My guy doesn't finish once in a while. This morning he didn't, for example. Chalk it up to just having a lot of sex lately; I just don't think he's too horny -- we have done it twice a day for the past few. He initially had an extremely stiff erection but then half an hour later or so it was flagging. He laughed briefly and said the tank seemed pretty dry. No particular worries. Clearly when we haven't been together for a few days he has no problem. I can't fathom therapy or anything -- I really wouldn't make an issue of it. If he's having trouble, encourage him to finish with his hands and shoot it on your belly or something.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-20-2007
Fri, 12-21-2007 - 5:25pm
oh if only it were that easy :)