Is casual sex really taboo?
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Is casual sex really taboo?
| Mon, 10-09-2006 - 9:03pm |
Hey y'all!
I'm a 27 year old single woman, who hasn't been in a relationship for nearly a year. For me, that means that I also haven't had sex in nearly a year. I've only had sex outside of a relationship once, and I didn't feel good about it. Soooo, now that I'm feeling a bit deprived sexually and I'm dating and meeting nice, attractive men, I'm wondering if casual sex is something that's considered taboo or if it's something that people do just to satisfy a physical urge? I'm not asking for anyone to tell me what I should do, because I know that what I choose to do is just that, my choice. I'm just asking for opinions.
What do y'all think about it? Nothing wrong with having someone around who satisfies an urge every now and then, huh? I just don't know if I'd be able to keep from developing feelings or an attachment to the person.
I'm a 27 year old single woman, who hasn't been in a relationship for nearly a year. For me, that means that I also haven't had sex in nearly a year. I've only had sex outside of a relationship once, and I didn't feel good about it. Soooo, now that I'm feeling a bit deprived sexually and I'm dating and meeting nice, attractive men, I'm wondering if casual sex is something that's considered taboo or if it's something that people do just to satisfy a physical urge? I'm not asking for anyone to tell me what I should do, because I know that what I choose to do is just that, my choice. I'm just asking for opinions.
What do y'all think about it? Nothing wrong with having someone around who satisfies an urge every now and then, huh? I just don't know if I'd be able to keep from developing feelings or an attachment to the person.

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That IS the major problem with casual sex. Men seem to be able to separate sex from love, but fewer women can.
If YOU don't think it's taboo, then for you it's not taboo. Everyone has their own idea of right and wrong.
What you're describing is called "Friends with Benefits".....and for some people it works, but what Gigi said is right. Most women aren't able to handle casual sex without becoming attached, and having expectations. In a FWB relationship, there should be no deep feelings, and no expectations. It's a mutual thing....and if he's seeing (and sleeping with) other women, that's his right to do so. If he's busy when you want to see him....too bad. He's not going to call you every day to see how you are, etc. It's NOT a relationship, it's getting together once in a while for sex. Most women start wanting more. Most men don't.
If you think you can handle it, go for it. But at the same time, you've been without it for this long, why not just get out and meet guys, and maybe you'll find a REAL relationship.
Taboo for whom? Since it's an individual decision, it doesn't matter what is or isn't "taboo" in anyone else's mind. Personally, casual sex or sex for sex's sake was never a driving force for me. I wouldn't get any physical pleasure from being with a stranger or acquaintance anyway.
But as with any kind of sex, it's a risk, emotionally and physically. Be prepared for complications.
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