Catholic Guilt-How Can I Help Him Deal?
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Catholic Guilt-How Can I Help Him Deal?
| Tue, 04-04-2006 - 9:13am |
So my new bf, 28, is having trouble in the sex department. He either goes off too fast or looses his erection. I havent brought it up, but he has, and says he has too much running through his head. Part guilt, part performance anxiety, he knows i have more experience than him. And he has been hurt in the past by women, this could also be contributing. I told him we could just wait until he feels more comfortable emotionally with the whole thing and he laughed and said that he really wants to and thats the problem. Any suggestions you might have would be appreciated,
THANKS!!
THANKS!!

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I can understand where you're coming from. Personally, I would have been as bothered if it had been titled "Jewish Guilt..." I don't want to be politically correct, but I do think that the casual use of stereotype by decent people unintentionally provides cover for those who use them maliciously.
Holly obviously didn't mean to offend and sincerely and graciously apologized in case she had done so inadvertently. In re-reading what I wrote yesterday, I can uderstand how I could have come across more harshly critical than was ever my intent for which I would like to apologize to Holly.
Someone asked before about his sexual history. He told me he has had seven partners before me, which for a 28 year old doesnt seem like very much to me.
7 partners for a 28 yr. old is quite a few, IMO. My DH is 51 and has had only one....me. I think it's all relative.
But this will be something that he'll have to resolve and deal with himself. We all do.
Ai carumba! The politically correct hijack the thread! Sheesh....
Anyway, seven partners at 28yo seems OK to me. There are plenty of guys out there that have had a lot fewer!
Your last comment caught my attention. Combine that with what you said in your original post about him knowing about your experience (or whatever it was I can't check it while I'm composing this reply). I wonder if he feels a bit intimidated by your "experience" and perhaps confidence in the bedroom? Maybe he is under the impression that you've had more "experience" than you actually have?
Thanks for your thought.
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