Cause/effect relationship?
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| Wed, 06-16-2004 - 4:54pm |
Okay, There was a thread a while back in which the majority of women said that their SO/DH/BF only lasted about 3-5 minutes during intercourse. I've also heard this confirmed by research, though I can't quote the source( maybe Masters and Johnson????).
Then , of course, we all know the statistic that only about 30% of women orgasm from intercourse.
Now, it seems like to me that there might be some kind of cause/effect relationship here, especially since it seems the majority of women require more than 5 minutes of stimulation to orgasm.
Now, many of you will remember my thread on orgasm from intercourse a while back and how a major argument broke out over how much men cared about this and how much they pressured their partners. I was always of the opinion that if the man wanted his woman to orgasm during intercourse, HE was the one to do something about it: stimulating her in other ways first, exploring different positions and movements to maximize clitoral and g-spot stimulation, and most of all, trying to keep it up long enough to get her there.
So, what do you guys think?

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Not only does it take a woman who knows what she needs, and a man who is willing to learn......but it also needs a woman who will teach.
Men aren't mindreaders.
Men aren't mindreaders. If a man can't please his partner because she hasn't told him how, it shows that she's the poor lover - not him.<<
Yes. I was very timid at first, and was horrible at communicating my needs. Once I started just forcing myself to ask for what I wanted/needed, our sex life improved greatly and so did my confidence.
Leticia
Have a nice weekend.
Edited 6/16/2004 9:03 pm ET ET by tiana_rose
It's also great to hear how much you enjoy being stimulated digitally, but that's also not the topic here. I happen to be a major advocate of the under-rated joys of digital sex. Perhaps you could start a thread about it and we could discuss it there.
The topic here is the longevity of intercourse and whether the 3-5 minutes that seems to be common is one of the reasons why some 70% of women don't orgasm from intercourse. You raise the point that women like you who do orgasm from intercourse don't all the time, and I wonder if the time spent on intercourse might be a factor.
taoist.
>>You raise the point that women like you who do orgasm from intercourse don't all the time, and I wonder if the time spent on intercourse might be a factor. <<
I know that was directed at Tiana, but the same goes for me....so I'll give an answer anyway.
I can easily have a set of multiple orgasms in 5 minutes
Ah, but Tiana's point is valid.
<It's also great to hear how much you enjoy being stimulated digitally, but that's also not the topic here.>>
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