Cause/effect relationship?

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Cause/effect relationship?
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Wed, 06-16-2004 - 4:54pm
Okay, Kat, I've been holding back on this one for fear of causing a real stormburst, but it looks like that's just what we need now.

Okay, There was a thread a while back in which the majority of women said that their SO/DH/BF only lasted about 3-5 minutes during intercourse. I've also heard this confirmed by research, though I can't quote the source( maybe Masters and Johnson????).

Then , of course, we all know the statistic that only about 30% of women orgasm from intercourse.

Now, it seems like to me that there might be some kind of cause/effect relationship here, especially since it seems the majority of women require more than 5 minutes of stimulation to orgasm.

Now, many of you will remember my thread on orgasm from intercourse a while back and how a major argument broke out over how much men cared about this and how much they pressured their partners. I was always of the opinion that if the man wanted his woman to orgasm during intercourse, HE was the one to do something about it: stimulating her in other ways first, exploring different positions and movements to maximize clitoral and g-spot stimulation, and most of all, trying to keep it up long enough to get her there.

So, what do you guys think?

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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 7:43am

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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 3:38pm
Actually, in this thread I'm not trying to "persuade" anyone to improve their sex lives. I was just wondering if there was a cause/effect relationship between men lasting 5 minutes or less during intercourse and only 30% of women orgasming this way.

Obviously, since you orgasm in under 5 minutes or not at all, anything more would be boring to you. However, I'm sure it has not escaped your notice that very few women respond the way you do. I happen to be a man who finds fellatio to completion to be tedious and boring. Thanks to your thread of a while back here and on GUY TALK and some threads I've read on askmen, I know I'm not the only man like this ( and I really appreciate knowing that, thanks). However, I know that guys like me are really a small minority since so many men seem to place such a high value on BJs. So, I just stay out of those discussions and recognize that I'm different from the vast majority of men on this topic.

taoist

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