Changing it up in the bedroom

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Registered: 02-13-2004
Changing it up in the bedroom
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Fri, 09-15-2006 - 5:23pm

hi everyone! i have a few questions here. my boyfriend and i haven't had sex yet, so we've been doing a lot of other things instead. just wondering if anyone has any suggestions to change it up in the bedroom so we're not always doing the same things the same way. for instance, i love to give my boyfriend head, but i would like to change it up and surprise him with new techniques...any suggestions?

also, anything else to do besides giving head, fingering, and dry sex?

thanks!

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Sat, 09-16-2006 - 8:31am

Everything you're doing IS sex.....in one form or another. What you're not doing is having intercourse, just one part of sex.

Is he reciprocating the oral sex? If not, why not? That's something new for you to try. There's always anal sex, too.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 09-16-2006 - 12:23pm
There are no limitations to sexual pleasures, it all depends on where your comfort zones are and his comfort zones.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Sat, 09-16-2006 - 2:04pm

Try combining some of them like oral and masturbation (you giving him oral while touching yourself manually at the same time (or vice-versa); or while giving him oral, he touches you (or vice-versa). Also breast sex, while you simulaneously stimulate yourself manually; while wearing a condom or depending on the birth-control sitation, you can try outercourse where he simulates intercourse, only on the outside of your body, rubbing his penis through your vulva through your clitoris and back and forth without entering you (although this may be too tempting). You could use a toy or a cucumber to do get the same effect.

As far as techniques go, there are slews of things you could try orally--simply research the net. Besides just doing things like motioning letters while he's inside of your mouth ;-), try some teasing techniques. Don't just concentrate on the penis, leave it for a while and concentrate on other areas. Also full-body massages with genital massages and/or with the giver using their genitals as an added "tool" on you here and there is also different, as well as adding oral here and there (of course finishing off with full-fledged oral or manual ).

Without intercourse involved, I can see why you're trying to be innovative, since you're trying to avoid a natural "urge" the whole time. ;-)




Edited 9/16/2006 2:08 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
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