Cheating -- can we all be honest?
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| Thu, 05-19-2005 - 9:00am |
OK, I love my husband very much and would never want to leave him or hurt him. However, I am currently involved in a romantic relationship with a man from work (I'm a 32 y/o school teacher with two kids.) My husband has ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA -- I am very, very, VERY careful.
We have had sex on my desk as early as last week -- yes at school. I know it's a little wild, but I anyways . . . and we also have sex in his car. Please everyone resist the urge or trying to give me advice as to how to fix my relationship problems with my husband -- I already know what they are.
what I don't know is, how many other women out there cheat, even if it was just a one-time fling. I feel guilty but not enough to stop, and I know I can't be the only woman in America who feels this way.
because I DO feel guilty, i'm trying to get a feel for how many other women explore as I have. I don't need anybody to fix my problems -- just to talk about their experiences with this. as for the men -- listen, too bad. women cheat, OK, just like you do. deal with it or make us happy and make us feel the way we should feel for keeping your home and giving you the gift of children.

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No. Sorry. I have never cheated nor have never had the urge to cheat. DH fulfills all of my needs physically and otherwise, so that I don't even think about cheating.
You do know that you have changed the dynamics of your relationship with your DH, don't you? You are living a lie. He's in love with someone who no longer exists. If you care enough about him, then at least give him his life back(which you stole even though he's not aware of it yet) by telling him the truth. You owe him that much, no?
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Well...first and foremost, I'm a woman(or a man, it makes no difference)...married for 24 years to a man that I know 27 years. I love my husband more now than I did when we first met.
And yes, it is my opinion that you OWE him the truth. The truth is that he is living with someone who has cheated on him and who is making a fool out of him. I realize that some people cheat for whatever reasons, but that doesn't give them the right to further deceive their partner.
I know that for me, there is no doubt that I would want to know. That is MY RIGHT. My right to decide how I live my life and with WHOM I live it with. For someone to steal away that right is despicible. The fact that they cheated is bad enough, the fact that they can't live up to the consequences is cowardly and selfish beyond words.
"get a life"? How ironic...dontcha think? ;-)
Edited 5/19/2005 9:50 am ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
Jesus, Tish you have fallen for that one??? Any time a guy says he wants to base a relationship on 100% honesty and openness, it means he's a scheaming, cheating bastard LOL!!! That's the oldest trick in the book because a guy knows a woman who is already inately like that to begin with will fall for it hook line and sinker.
And for your infomation, there isn't a man out there who would pass the chance to have sex with another woman IF HE WOULD NOT GET CAUGHT -- trust me when I tell you this. Have you ever been to bachelor parties? "poker parties"? "Guys night out"? What do you think is going on? the 8 times out of 10 he actually IS at this event just in case you check, the other two he is out screwing some girl from the local pizza place!
going out of town? HONESTLY!!! he's going down the street to the local hotel for the weekend to screw his mistress and watch sports!! check the mileage on his vehicle, for God sakes!!! or watch his plane TAKE OFF WITH HIM IN IT to be sure. you ladies kill me with this stuff lol.
I sincerely hope you're just being sarcastic. I'd hate to think that the male population contains nothing but lying, scheming bastards that should be castrated and forced to go through childbirth to feel our pain.
But, then again, the OP didn't make women look any better, did she? I guess when we women say we're going to the salon we're really with the boss "going over some paperwork." Or that when we say we're having a girl's night out, we're really all at some sort of passion party "testing the merchandise" on our girlfriends. Or that when we say we're going to the grocery store, we're really sneaking out to go see that hot new bachelor that just moved into to the house two doors down..And that when we look at our male companions and tell them, "I just love you so much. Nothing would please me more than to be your wife and bear your children" we're just hooking a man the same way a man uses trust and honesty to hook a woman? My gawd, we're a race of lying retards.
*cries into hands* I'm so ashamed of my elders. They've taught me nothing but wh*ring, lying, and stealing.
Jennie, I'm not joking. why do you think men get caught? because they get followed. what's the first thing they say when they get caught? "Man, that's f-up that you didn't trust me." it's a riot.
what do you think your guy is diong on the computer? work??? give me a break. he is either looking at porn, gambling, or setting up a rendezvous with some chick off of Yahoo!!!
I really believe women that say they are going on a "girls night out" because regardless of that angry chick I was ragging on, its my opinion that women dont cheat unless you give them a reason to. I could be wrong, but that's what I think. (Giving them a reason to includes marrying somebody you never should have married in the first place!)
But men are scum. Anybody who believes any different is jut living in a fantasy world!! There are only two kinds of men 1) cheaters and 2) those who dont cheat ONLY because they could never get away with it.
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