Cheating -- can we all be honest?
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| Thu, 05-19-2005 - 9:00am |
OK, I love my husband very much and would never want to leave him or hurt him. However, I am currently involved in a romantic relationship with a man from work (I'm a 32 y/o school teacher with two kids.) My husband has ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA -- I am very, very, VERY careful.
We have had sex on my desk as early as last week -- yes at school. I know it's a little wild, but I anyways . . . and we also have sex in his car. Please everyone resist the urge or trying to give me advice as to how to fix my relationship problems with my husband -- I already know what they are.
what I don't know is, how many other women out there cheat, even if it was just a one-time fling. I feel guilty but not enough to stop, and I know I can't be the only woman in America who feels this way.
because I DO feel guilty, i'm trying to get a feel for how many other women explore as I have. I don't need anybody to fix my problems -- just to talk about their experiences with this. as for the men -- listen, too bad. women cheat, OK, just like you do. deal with it or make us happy and make us feel the way we should feel for keeping your home and giving you the gift of children.

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A woman doesn't, maybe.
But that's not the case with men, Rain_dancer. The only thing a man wants is something "different."
Jake, I can tell you what my husband is looking at on the computer. Jobs! Or he's downloading music off Kazaa..That crappy, cheesy hip-hop "Jump Around" rap from the early nineties. He's not meeting chicks. The man can't type! I've watched him. He henpecks, but I think a hen could type better than he! He doesn't cheat on me because he's the rare #3 man-He who is honest. *LOL* Let's be realistic, shall we? As for the porn...And this is so shocking...I DOWNLOADED THOSE TWO PORN CLIPS! IT WAS ALL ME...Yes, I am a woman who out of sheer curiousity downloaded porn. And, my husband wanted to watch it with me. Oh, the shame! We're two people deeply committed to one another. A first in relationship history for the wh*re country of the world!
She was an angry, little thing wasn't she? Wonder what's stuck up her arse?
Well...please don't speak for my DH and MOST men. DH and I are free to do whatever we want with our lives. We don't have a leash on each other. We are free spirits. If that's what his choice would be in this life, then who am I to stop him and vise verse? (The only rule we have is that we respect each other enough to end it first.) We remain together because that's OUR DESIRE not because we HAVE TO. I know it's hard for you to comprehend this and it's probably because you haven't experienced it.
BTW, are you claiming to be a woman or a man...I'm not sure. tee hee
Edited 5/19/2005 10:20 am ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
I'm the man in these here parts . . . and if you don't believe me about men cheating, I challenge all you ladies out there to just seek and you shall find. Don't be afraid to find what you don't want to find if what you seek is the truth. I have cheated before, and every single person I know whether an accountant, or lawyer, or doctor, or pastor has cheated. every one. It's not just the company I keep, but rather the nature or guys in general.
You are all more than welcome to believe what you want but if you want to find out The truth, get creative. You'll find out in no time how willing your guy is to cheat. If you choose not to, understand that you are only doing so to protect a reality that you want to believe.
Edited 5/19/2005 10:32 am ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
Rain_Dancer, men ALWAYS have the desire to cheat. Take or leave it, believe it or don't. Men simply don't feel as if cheating is an act of non-love. I have to agree with Emily on that one. I "love" the person I am with and want to spend the rest of my life with her. That doesn't mean that what she doesn't know won't hurt her.
If you think I'm generalizing, here is a simple test: Tell your husband that you want to experiment with you, him and another woman and ask him what he thinks about it. His response and/or answer will tell you all you need to know about his "desire".
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