Coming way too quickly

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Coming way too quickly
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Sun, 07-25-2004 - 6:39pm
Seems like after many years of having sex I now just come so so quickly when penetration begins, it's an odd scenario. I've never been at all multiorgasmic so I'm basically just "done," and I'm extremely sensitive afterward and often don't really like to be penetrated any more, when in fairness the guy's just getting started. What is wrong with me? Not that I don't enjoy sex, and my orgasm is indeed earth-shattering, but I don't ask for any foreplay whatsoever because then I just get too turned on and it makes this even briefer. I'm more or less a one-shot wonder -- have never been multiorgasmic. This just seems like a wierd sexual response pattern, and it's slowly gotten more and more like this over the years (I'm 38). I'm hardly suffering, but I think some of my b/fs have just been like, "huh?"
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Registered: 10-10-2003
Sun, 07-25-2004 - 7:40pm
My current g/f, who's a couple years younger than you, has almost the same thing happen. Doesn't bug her at all but I feel incredibly selfish on the pleasure front. Our current sexual interlude seems to be something like: 20-30 min. of her sucking me, a couple minutes of penetration, her thanking me profusely but wanting me outta there pronto, then maybe 5-10 minutes more of oral and then maybe a facial or something. This happens probably 80% of the time; I hardly ever come inside her, not that she minds it a bit if the timing is right. I don't understand this, I really don't, but what you describe is very similar.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 1:45am
So, does your partner ever get to finish what he started? Does it always end with manual or oral for him?

I would say that since this DOES affect the experience of your partner, and yourself, then you should (just as I would encourage a male poster to do, btw) work on changing your response, if possible.