Is this common?

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Registered: 03-29-2005
Is this common?
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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 11:03am

Ok, now I dont really consider myself a prude or really uptight when it comes to sex, but last night my man came on my face and I immediately felt like I had been violated.

~Kristina

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Registered: 10-31-2004
Wed, 03-30-2005 - 7:17pm

Just to add a guy's point of view here...

I only came on a woman's face once, and that was years ago in college. It was with a "f*** buddy" that I had. While she was giving me oral, I got the idea to cum on her face. I'm sure I had seen it in some porno or something. I figured since I wasn't really in a relationship with her, I might as well try new things - one more thing to "cross off the list". Since we were in the middle of the action already, it would have been awkward to ask her.

Anyway, I pulled out when I felt the orgasm coming on so that it would go on her face and in her hair. She was surprised. When I stopped cumming, she jumped up out of the bed and ran to the bathroom to wash off. She never said anything about it, but then again we didn't talk about sex much.

Thinking back to it years later, cumming on her face definetly give me a feeling of power over her and made me feel very manly. Kind of like "marking my territory". Maybe it made me feel like I could do anything I wanted to her if I could do that. I did feel like I had degraded her. I don't really know what was driving it - some male hormones I guess. I'm not saying those feelings are right, I'm saying what they were at the time.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 03-30-2005 - 7:19pm
As usual, you said it wonderfully. I totally agree.


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Registered: 03-29-2005
Thu, 03-31-2005 - 11:08am

I just wanted to say a big thank you.

~Kristina
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Registered: 05-01-2003
Thu, 03-31-2005 - 12:34pm
I have been thinking about this string on and off for several days then had a date last night. I have been out with this guy several times in the last few weeks, and the intimacy has been enjoyable. Well, last night remembering the comments on here, including the ones I had made, I let him cum in my face. I wouldn't say that I felt like a slut, but I did feel as if in that moment I had ceased to be a person and had become a sex object. I think I felt demeaned, even though I had allowed it to happen. When I asked him how he felt, it was somewhere between cool and in control. Elaine
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 03-31-2005 - 5:48pm

>>I think I felt demeaned, even though I had allowed it to happen.<<

I can see how you'd feel like that, at that moment of his orgasm you are no longer in control. You've just got to passively accept it as it happens. At least during something like oral sex you are still actively doing something and participating in his orgasm, rather than just sitting there waiting for him to finish.

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Registered: 03-31-2005
Thu, 03-31-2005 - 11:36pm
Yes it is fairly common now, reason being is because of the porn influence. But if it's something you don't wanna do I am sure he will respect your feelings enough to understand.

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