Condoms and performance problems

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
Condoms and performance problems
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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 10:03am
Hi everybody... curious if there are any men out there who can weigh in on how to handle condom-related performance problems. As men get older and their control gets better it seems to me that safe sex gets problematic. My SO was convinced, when he met me, that it was impossible for him to orgasm when wearing a condom. We figured out that the problem was too-tight condoms; buying size "large" immediately fixed the problem. But he tells me that his friend, recently single and also in his late forties, has the problem of losing his erection any time he puts on a condom. This is embarassing, needless to say, but there's no underlying erection trouble that could be solved by Viagra, it's all about the condom. Advice?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 11:35am
We don't use condoms so I have no idea if they would have that effect on Dh (50 yrs old).

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Registered: 07-06-2004
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:16pm

The industrial strength thick and dry condoms are terrible as the sensitive head is deprived of almost all sensations. It's hard to determine if one's in or out. There's a tendency to want to pound to regain sensation as pressure around the shaft is about all that is felt. It feels far from natural.

Thinner is better and two things can help. Before putting the condom on, put a glob of lubricant on the head and allow an inch or so of loose condom at the tip. The lube will conduct that exquisite initial body heat from a partner to the head. And when moving, the lube and loose condom at the tip can provide the needed friction to the glans that the condom by default prevents.

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Registered: 01-09-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 4:58pm
Highly unlikely it's "just the condom".
Certainly a condom isn't as stimulating as 'au natural' but it won't make a penis shrivel up and die. Any man with any sort of "erectile dysfunction" needs to talk to his physician. It could be cardio-vascular related. It could be psychological. Emotional. Or just plain ole ED. He can't rule out any of these things and say that it's not something Viagra can or can't help until he talks to his doc about it.