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| Wed, 10-31-2007 - 10:44am |
Iv been having these feelings. I want diffrient sex partners. Not that i don't love my wife. Is just that shes the 2nd person iv ever had sex with. I want to experance deferent women. is this wrong? What can i do about this.

Welcome to the board, fish815.
I don't think anyone here can really tell you if it's "wrong". Each relationship has their own boundaries, and each individual within the relationship might have their own feelings. I'm sure you know what the boundaries are within yours, but I will say that people do change, sexually, with time.
Have you thought about talking with your wife? Have you tried other things to spice up your relationship with her? Many couples introduce role play, use pornography, and/or sex toys to bring that excitement into their sex lives. There are also couples who experiment with threesomes or moresomes, open relationships, etc. Sometimes things are also a passing phase.
The only way you can know what's right for your relationship is to talk with your DW about the things you are feeling. (Not necessarily saying you want to have sex with other women, but perhaps that you want to spice up your sex life with her.) You probably know her well enough, and since you're asking if your thinking is wrong here, I'm willing to bet you feel she would flip if she knew you were interested in having more partners. You did make a commitment to her, so you have to hold your end of that bargain too. BUT, if you talk with her, you might find that she's more than willing to begin some fantasy play with you. Introducing new sexual partners is always risky, and can cause permanent damage to your primary relationship. Most people who think they might want to experiment, often find that they can fulfill that desire through fantasy play.
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Back to the issue of right and wrong .... Personally, I feel if you step outside of the boundaries of your marriage, it is wrong. If you have an "affair", I think it's wrong. If you want to have an open marriage, and your partner agrees to that, then I think it's right for the two of you. I also think if you spend some time taking baby steps to change the sexual relationship you now have, you might find that you don't really want other sexual partners.
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