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| Thu, 07-06-2006 - 7:37am |
I will make it short and sweet and to the point. Married 19 years. Is too lazy to do anything for me in regards to sex or romance. His idea of foreplay is grabbing a part of me and telling me to go put on something sexier. Strange part is that i wasn't too bad to start with i guess. For his 40th birthday i went out on a limb for him. Did some really sexy things for him but after a month he had the comment like i had mentioned before. He never plans anything. He wants to lay there and have me dance around etc but the sad part is that he really doesn't see this. We have talked about it a million times and for about 3 weeks he is into it but then he reverts back to his lazy ways and nothing. but when the sex life gets a little dull he asks me why i am not into it. WTF? Is it cause he really is just that lazy or cause he can't even admit that he doesn't want to do these things for me? or both?

Seems to be a common problem.
You need to change how you react to this first. Don't let his laziness slide anymore. Don't continue to accept what you're getting. If you aren't getting what you want, then change your reactions. That is, don't have sex if he's not going to give 100% as well.
The next time he grabs you and makes his usual suggestion, say "And what are YOU going to do for ME?" Then, don't make a move until he does. He needs to see that the free ride is over. It's payback time. So, stick to your guns on this and within 30 days, new habits are formed.
When he wants sex, he needs to know that you aren't going to "dance around" and provide the show all the time anymore. You deserve to be seduced and romanced, too!