Confused?

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Registered: 09-22-2004
Confused?
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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 12:16pm
Ok, I have this personal problem that I can't figure out...so here it goes, Anytime that I get close to someone as in ( a friendship and nothing more!) I get upset if one of my close friends starts becoming close to someone else, why, I think it's because I'm afraid of losing my friend to someone else and I get very upset and all emotional about, and YES I DO understand that my friends have every right to hang out with other people and everything, It's just that it still upsets me inside, like whenever I ask someone to hang out they're like well I might have plans with so and so and I'm like Well I asked you the same thing 2 weeks ago and they're like I know but, blah ,blah, blah and it just drives me nuts, like sometimes it feels like they want to be with those people other than me!!! I have told my friends how I felt and they say that's not true or whatever it just still makes me upset though and I'm not sure how to over come that...it's hard....and making new friends is NOT the answer because that is easier said then done....and I don't really want to, it's hard for me to trust people and say things that only my friends would understand...it's complicated...does anyone have any suggestions or advice?!?! Please help...Thanks...!!!
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Registered: 09-22-2004
In reply to: ilauren1666
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 6:34pm
PS: I suppose from what you all said...it sounds like your saying Im a horrible person or something...you all dont know me ...you only know what you see from these boards...im not a bad person!
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: ilauren1666
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 9:02pm
No one is saying you are a bad person, what we are saying is trying to help you see what you are doing to your friendships by the things you do and say.

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Registered: 09-22-2004
In reply to: ilauren1666
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 10:09pm
Im looking for a friend who will always want to hang out and never get sick of it...someone who is like me but different so we can learn from each other you know...its Like i see my friends with there best friends or so they tell me and I wish I could have that... I think i had that once before and I lost that... I just wish i could find someone like that again...
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Registered: 09-22-2004
In reply to: ilauren1666
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 10:21pm
I do I always try and be friendly I'm never mean to anyone unless I have to be... I know Im not ashamed of not going to see a counselor but the funny thing is I want to be one I enjoy helping others with problems of all types its just strange you can't help yourself out...but I don't think I need help... I just need to improve my negative attitude, and by your guy's advice I will try and improve that...it's just so hard b/c you can't have things go your way or always expect things to turn out the way you want them to, but that's life I guess... and I always expect to much out of people and that in itself is hard to change too...but how would you handle the stuff I told you guys?!?! I mean don't you ever get upset if a friend makes plans with other people becuz you want to see them and havent for a while, to me that seems normal sometimes?!? Or feel like your being left out!?! Im sure everyone has had the same feelings as I do, I highly doubt nobody ever felt the way that I do... any tips on how to change my negative attitude towards friends?!?! Like what do you guys do>!?!?!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ilauren1666
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 10:30pm

Hi lauren,


I read through most of the posts.


Sharon

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Registered: 09-22-2004
In reply to: ilauren1666
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 10:36pm
Thank You *hugs*
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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: ilauren1666
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 10:54pm
Lauren, you missed my point. Loosing your post isn't a crime, but the angry outburst was totally unnecessary. You were rude and sarcastic to those helping you learn how to navigate the boards. Go back and re-read your posts about the lost thread now that you have found the posts and are calm.

It was the *anger* in your outburst that made me feel that you need anger management and problem resolution skills - not the fact that you lost it.

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Registered: 09-22-2004
In reply to: ilauren1666
Fri, 11-12-2004 - 1:06pm
Well personally I felt attacked by whoever stated that... so and so has told you that many of times...well obviously nobody told me where to look or I wouldn't have asked....common sense! And whoever was saying that was being rude and I came back...
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: ilauren1666
Fri, 11-12-2004 - 1:40pm

Yes Lauren, I did tell you how to find your posts that have gone to the second page.


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Registered: 01-25-2004
In reply to: ilauren1666
Fri, 11-12-2004 - 2:28pm
I was not attacking you, I was stating that Tish DID tell you...which she did, as she stated and posted the link in the last post. I didn't mean to be rude I was just pointing out that you shouldn't be yelling at Tish for something she already helped you with and has no control over. Also, Aisha wasn't referring to your response to me, but your initial post that I responded to..."Where is my post...I'm tired of askign for it!! Please leave it up!" Very angry, very rude

Angel