a couple Q's on fingering

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-03-2004
a couple Q's on fingering
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Tue, 06-22-2004 - 7:41pm
Hello,

My bf and I have been in a very close relationship for some time and we have been physical for months... everything has been going great... except for the time he broke my hymen... and just today, when he was fingering me he used two fingers for the first time and at first it hurt, but then I was quite enjoying it... Now a few hours later it kinda burns when i go to the bathroom, and is a bit sore if i dont sit right... also there was a very tiny bit of bleading after........ is this all normal? do you think its just like this because its the first time anything as wide as two fingers were inside me?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 7:50pm
Possibly. Is this man the the first you've had sex with? Could be you need some lubrication so his fingers don't rub you raw. And if you're not use to two fingers, it might take you some time to work up to that. Use more lubrication.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-03-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 7:57pm
I dont know if i mentioned this in the original board.. but im still a virgin... and... to be honest im too embarassed to ask him to use lubricant.. and i dont even know how to get that......... help!...lol
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 8:04pm
Well, that explains it. You can easily purchase KY-Jelly at any grocery store or drugstore. If you're too embarrassed to ask him to use it, then maybe you should refrain from being physical.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 9:45pm

You were probably not lubricated enough


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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 12:00am
I agree with the others. If you're too "embarassed" to tell him he's hurting you, and he has to be more gentle, and he has to use some lubricant....then you have NO business being intimate with him.

Go to the store, buy a tube, hand it to him and tell him to use it. Do NOT attempt to use things that you have around the house, like lotions, or vaseline, or cooking oil. You need the lubricant that's made for sexual use.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-03-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 12:18pm
HELLO!

After reading some of your answers to my questions I'm very proud to report that I did ask him/ tell him to use lubricant, he was great and supportive.... he admitted that he was going to try it even without asking me, just in case... and he admitted that at first when i told him about the pain he was very worried, and was also releived that lubricant might help the problem.... And today i feel 100% normal!.... I love this board and I love your guy's advice, you have no idea how much it helps.... thanks for your support.