Creampies, sticky facials...

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Creampies, sticky facials...
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Thu, 08-03-2006 - 9:47pm

Hi ladies...and guys :-) I have a couple of questions about this ubiquitous porn phenomenon. My guy and I like to look at porn together and it seems like on every site, in every video or picture gallery, there is at least one shot of a woman getting spewed on--usually on her face. There are even sites devoted entirely to it. And sometimes I see pictures of women drooling cum. Neither of us thinks this is sexy, but obviously there are women and men who enjoy it. I don't get it, but I have a couple of theories.

The first theory is that a lot of guys are fascinated with their cum and like to think that women can't get enough of it. Like maybe he's thinking, "Man, I love it when a woman loves cum so much she wants to bathe in it!" And perhaps women do it because they love the feel of their guy's cum on their body and/or face. Another theory, and this is from a sociological angle, is that it's a way to consensually subjugate women. We've also come across numerous non-BDSM sites where there is a distinct male dominance theme, so the validity of this particular theory would not surprise me. Like maybe since our society is shifting away from patriarchy, there is a need for a vast majority of men to attain a semblance of superiority to women, if only in the bedroom. I know this is the case for *some* men because I've seen pictures of women evidently not enjoying it, even being grossed out by it, so there is definitely a sexual humiliation overtone to it that appeals to a certain segment of the male population. (We don't go looking for this stuff; it's impossible to avoid pictures of women being sexually humiliated--they're everywhere.)

I'm also reminded of the Japanese practice of bukkake, which is essentially the same thing: cumming on women's faces and bodies. Bukkake came about as a way to punish adulterous wives, which makes me wonder if some couples are using it as soft BDSM play. I have actually seen it incorporated into BDSM activities where the woman is the "slave", or the sub.

Am I on the mark with one of these theories, or maybe all are applicable depending on the man and woman and their sexual tastes? Or is there an alternative explanation?

I'm very curious about this, and as you can see I've been doing a lot of thinking about it as well :-)

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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 12:06am

Personally, I think you're on the mark with the humiliation idea, there are just too many net sites devoted to this. And as it relates to maintaining a sense of dominance if only in the bedroom, I think that is true, unfortunately. That's my gut feeling about it and I have never heard a convincing argument to the contrary. I think you will, however, hear from many that it is all just "fun". I think that ignoring the obvious themes of misogyny that seem to run through a lot of porn is just closing one's eyes to something one would rather not be critical about.

I do think men are pretty smitten with their come, though, at the same time and a large contingent of them have no interest in humiliating their partner, but to see her appreciating his come. My current partner also has the same fascination with his own come, at the same time, however, he's pretty obsessed with female secretions as well. Unfortunately, I don't see sites devoted to men rolling around with their faces drenched in female ejaculate. Now that would be nice.

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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 1:07am

My DH and I feel as you do. The act seems more degrading than erotic or loving to us. It's a little too close to spitting or slapping a woman in the face and we all know those are acts meant to humiliate or shame.

But we've had several posters on this board who say they enjoy it. Not sure why, but different strokes for different folks.




Edited 8/4/2006 10:37 am ET by katmandoo2001
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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 1:41am

Oh, I think that it's definitely about dominance. The macho power-trip. Male power during the sexual act. Humiliation is a large part of much of it, just as a lot of hardcore porn is humiliating to women in many different ways. But I'm sure that some of it doesn't *intend* to be humiliating.

Mind you, porn is almost a purely visual media and it needs to present as much as it can visually. So I'm not surprised in the slightest that cumming on the outside of a woman has become a staple of porn movies whether or not it's something that the audience really wants or not.

I've never particularly cared much for it myself. I've done it with a willing partner once or twice and I suppose it's OK - I don't find it particularly offensive but I could take it or leave it. On the otherhand, I find ejeculating on other body parts (ie. breasts and nipples or vulva) much more arousing than ejeculating on the face. I suppose its up to the individual couples to reach an agreement about it.

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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 1:49am

I think there is something beyond domination/submission about this act. To me it resembles the happy toddler that made a poop and shows it to mommy to get approval. The face is where we show our expression and accepting it on one's face without disgust, and with seeming enjoyment, is a form of validation/approval/acceptance of raw male sexuality.

Also porn likes to go to the extremes and there are only so many acts that can be shown. Most women aren't into this act so it is novel and something most men can't get at home.

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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 8:14am

i love it when i feel him spasm and pulsate up inside me. love the feeling afterwards when i ooze. i also love making him happy when he feels like pulling out to ejacaulate on me, breats, belly, pubic area if we are engaging in rear entry on my backiside. we do not "make love" all the time sometimes just sex, wild animial like,sometimes just being naughty. i have had him shoot in my my hair, on my neck not because he aimed it there just missed lol. i am not a fan of him shooting on my face.

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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 8:57am

The porno custom of cumming onto the woman is, I think, to prove they aren't faking it.

Let's be real here, most guys would much rather be inside a woman when they go off. But as visual as guys are, there's probably something to having your partner willing to 'take one' for you. Never happened between DW and me, not sure I'd want it to.

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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 10:55am
But that still doesn't explain purposely targeting the FACE. The guy could ejaculate onto her body to prove it's real. There is an element of degradation any time the face is targeted.
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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 11:41pm
Thanks for responding, everyone. I was hoping that this is a fetish for the majority of guys looking at this stuff, because thinking that it's a way to degrade women is really depressing when I consider how prevalent it is in porn. I'm sure it is a fetish for some guys and nothing more. It doesn't bother me so much when guys cum on other body parts, but there is something disturbing about cumming on the face. Which means there are a whole heck of a lot of misogynistic guys out there and women who aren't thinking about the significance of getting a face full. It is very unsettling.
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Sat, 08-05-2006 - 12:19am
In a way I see your point, that it could be a way to demonstrate acceptance of everything manly about a man. On the other hand, I'm of the opinion that it's an indication of emotional immaturity and/or delusional self-absorption when guys need women to pretend their cum is delightful so they can feel validated and special. I wouldn't expect my guy to drench himself in my cum (if I could do that) so I could feel accepted and adored. Not everyone shares that perspective, I'm aware.
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Sat, 08-05-2006 - 6:53pm
i think sometimes women greatly undervalue the amount of insecurity men have. they consistantly have to face rejection in the dating world...and it is women that have the power to reject them. and although i am not saying it is okay to be misogynistic in response, in some way it is understandable. somehow these guys need to puff themselves up. i think facials are a combination of showing dominance and gaining acceptance even if the two seem contradictory.

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