Cumming together?

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Cumming together?
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Wed, 03-02-2005 - 8:28am
What is better to you, cumming togther or cumming several times? I once had a lover who was the first and only person to say "what about me". I will never forget that. Now with DW, i will try an get her to orgasm with my hand, then i will go down and try to get her to orgasm with my toungue, then i will enter her, usually from behind on the edgeof the bed with me standing. She will often ask me to orgasm with her instead. I get worried but her "not getting hers".
Ladies...which would you rather have...multiple or mutual?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 8:42am

I'll go for multiple during foreplay and intercourse.


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Registered: 05-27-2004
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 9:36am

What's wrong with both? Since most of us don't have orgasms from intercourse alone, the best chance of doing it is if we've already had them before intercourse, and we're "on a roll".

Mutual orgasms are'nt that easy to achieve for most couples....but it makes it a lot easier if there has already been a few.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 11:22am

It's not an "either/or" choice though.

I like both but I rarely have multiples from intercourse, so they usually happen during long foreplay sessions. And by then, if I don't orgasm at all during intercourse, who cares? LOL!

But I enjoy both and want both for variety. Maybe your partner just wants to have intercourse with manual stimulation once in a while for the same reason. But if you're worried about lasting long enough, then start manually stimulating her during foreplay but penetrate her BEFORE she gets to orgasm. You shouldn't have any problems lasting.




Edited 3/2/2005 11:26 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Wed, 03-02-2005 - 1:57pm

From a guy's point of view, we don't really try to cum together but it does happen. My partner can orgasm pretty easily during intercourse so it does happen often, but again it's not something that we usually go looking for. It just tends to happen as we both realise that we're close to the peak and then we'll go for it. It happens most frequently for us if she's on top because she can control the stimulation and as she hits her orgasm, the vigorous movements that she's making send me over the edge and we cum together.

Personally, I'd prefer having seperate orgasms most of the time. While there are times where I do enjoy an intense simultaneous orgasm, mine tend to be a little bit of an anticlimax at those times. I think that it's because the stimulation is enough to make me orgasm, but because she's on top and controlling the movements, it's kinda different from what I'd prefer to make my orgasm a real biggie.

She likes simultaneous orgasms and I'm not complaining about them myself, but at the end of the day I prefer letting her have a couple of orgasms from oral and intercourse before I have mine.

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Registered: 02-28-2005
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 2:59pm
LOL, That's like saying what is better peanut butter cups or snickers bars.
If you got a craving either or both will do fine.

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Thu, 03-03-2005 - 1:08pm
The one thing that is good about cumming together for me is that if I am cumming and he starts cumming it always makes my orgasm more intense.
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Thu, 03-03-2005 - 1:43pm
It does get pretty intense when we cum together. My bggest concern is that iwant to make sure that she gets hers. However, if she doesn't, it may be my opportunity to ask her if I could go down after to help her to finish. I have always wanted to but not sure how she would react.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-03-2005 - 3:17pm
Well, you'll never know until you ask. I wouldn't worry about it though. Sounds like you make every effort to be sure she's pleased.
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Thu, 03-03-2005 - 7:05pm

For years my husband had a thing about wanting us to orgasm together. He felt he hadn't done his job well if I didn't orgasm at the time he did. In addition, he had a little bit of a problem with premature ejaculation. He also didn't like to get his hands wet and to this day he doesn't like oral sex. So I was left with the challenge of learning to orgasm quickly, with little forepay and simultaneously with him. He has been my only partner and we married when I was 22 years old. At 22 years of age and on birth control pills, orgasms are elusive. However I met his challenge. Today I have multiple orgasms every time we have sex and I almost always simultaneously orgasm with him. However I still have no idea why he wants simultaneous orgasms. To me they don't feel any different than other orgasms. When asked, he now says it isn't important to him. That might be because I so easily orgasm these days. Only one orgasm at any time in the sexual experience would satisfy me. I have multiple orgasms and I can simultaneously orgasm with my husband but that isn't really what it is about anyway. The orgasm is great but the intimacy is the big payoff.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Thu, 03-03-2005 - 7:08pm
Neither one of those has happened for us ... and I find our sex life is VERY satisfying.

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