cunnilingusproblems- why won't he go dow

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cunnilingusproblems- why won't he go dow
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Wed, 09-01-2004 - 8:04am
my boyfriend says he doesn't enjoy giving me cunnilingus because it smells bad but i don't understand why this is. is is just that he doesn't like the way i naturally smell or could it be caused by something im doing/ or not doing? it would help if i knew how it was suppposed to smell but i obviously have nothing to compare it to. i havent had this problem with other men before. help!

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Wed, 09-01-2004 - 8:49am
It could be that he just doesn't like it,

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Wed, 09-01-2004 - 9:21am
What is odd is how when a guy doesn't want to go down on a woman, the advice is "he just may not like it" and yet when a woman doesn't want to give a man oral the advice(not necessarily yours) is "you're too immature for sex" or "keep trying, eventually you may enjoy it." LOL
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Wed, 09-01-2004 - 9:57am
Stick around mona, LOL, you'll find on THIS message board that that particular oddity you're use to isn't as true as you may think. :)

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Wed, 09-01-2004 - 10:00am
I fully agree with Tish on this one, especially since you've had no problem with other men regarding this. In fact, I'm wondering now if HE is the one who may have had issue with other women himself

Regardless, some individuals enjoy going down, and some just don't.

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Wed, 09-01-2004 - 10:26am
it would make sense, except when i first got with him he said he couldn't wait to do it and he was quite cocky about being really good at it. the first time he said he dint like it i did find out i had interior vaginal thrush, but i went to the doctor, got the treatment and thats cleared up now. i can smell that its different from then and i thought there shouldnt be any more problems but we tried again the other day and he started and stopped pretty much straight away. i asked if it was ok now and he wasn't very confidence-inspiring when he said it was kind of ok, but i should know better than him. the problem is i don't. maybe i will just go to a gyno or sex clinic, although ive been cleared of any stds and infections fairly recently.
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Wed, 09-01-2004 - 10:41am

The advise you are too immature or keep trying, you'll get used to it was never given by me.


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Wed, 09-01-2004 - 10:43am
Understood. THAT was the additional info I think we needed, thank you. :)

Since you're able to smell differences yourself, then I'm also led to believe he smells something not so natural and just simply isn't as turned on by it. Just a guess. Going back to the doc/gyno is NEVER a bad idea, I'm pretty big on playing it safe anyway.

I'd really let the physician know your issue and that you DO have concerns about your health and the effect this has on your love life as well. For all you know, you'll get GREAT advice on how to deal with this. Remember to try that Sexual Health board as well:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhgensex

Teach us what works and what doesn't work once you've addressed this, okay? Good luck! :)

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Wed, 09-01-2004 - 10:44am
Now here is the obbisite of things.I love going down on women,But I have been with 2 who refuse to let me go down on them.Now they always go down on me and I doesn't even ask them to when we are having sex.The woman who I married is one of them women.No matere what I say or do she never let me do it.She tells me she doesn't understand why I would want to do something like that to her.I tells here back that I enjoy doing it to her and seeing her being pleasured.Seeing her being pleasured turns me on.I really thinks that she is very self-conious about herself down there,cause she always talked about her wetness and scent whenever I starts to go down there.I want to find me a woman who wants me to pleasure that way.I want a woman who will come home sometimes asking or telling me that she wants me to go down her or to let her sit on my face so I can pleasure her.

Do any of you ladies know any women who would tell their partner to to that?

WHat about you ladies?

Would you tell your partner that's what you would want them to do?

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Wed, 09-01-2004 - 12:44pm
thanks for that advice. defo decided to go back to the doc/gyno and get this sorted once and for all coz apart from that its all great. ill let u know how it goes.
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Wed, 09-01-2004 - 12:53pm
i would've happily let my guy know thats what i wanted before this problem arose. but now he's made me feel more self-concious about something i never thought twice about and if he tries it i tense up and worry that he will refuse me again and what he's thinking (and smelling) (sorry) while he's down there.

personally, i don't get why a woman would refuse you if you've never tried it before though. try approaching the subject gently to find out if she's had past issues with it and thats why she's reluctant to do it again then remind her thats she's in a new relationship now with a different person and she doesn't know what she might be missing!she shouldn't judge a new aprtner on previous bad experiences. equally, don't put too much pressure on, she might just be against it.

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