Curious? Or for real...

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Curious? Or for real...
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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 9:45pm
So I enjoy watching females in porn having sex/giving each other oral sex, whatever. Does this mean I'm gay? I'm with my boyfriend, who I love very very much. And I enjoy sex with him. But I can't help but wonder what it would be like to have sex with a female, and to see what it's like to go down on a female. What's wrong with me?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 9:53pm
Nothing is wrong with you and it doesn't mean you're gay or even bi-sexual.

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 4:45am

I don't think Tish could have worded it any more perfectly.

Sounds more like a 'curiosity' turn-on to whatever the sexual experience would simply be like...as opposed to being turned on simply because its another female. Its the that caught your attention by what I've read, not the other body involved and thats it.

Now, hypothetical thought, even at this time in the morning, LOL!...would here and there view it as a sign of crossing the border, sorta speak? Sure, we're all different with different views. From the standpoint so far though, seems like its simply curiosity and not a pursuit after the same gender. Best guess.

 

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Registered: 04-02-2004
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 2:44pm
You just might be gay. If a guy liked to watched porn of 2 guys giving each other oral, I would say he's gay. Not one for double standards.
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Thu, 07-28-2005 - 3:35pm
I think these feelings are quite common with many women. I know I similarly become aroused watching two women together - though I don't watch porn, I do like watching late night cable movies. I'm married for almost 5 years now, and do tend to keep these thoughts to myself. I think I'm probably bisexual, though I haven't pursued anything physical yet - I am very open to the possibility of exploring this fantasy in the flesh. I have openly flirted with a few women already, and have to admit it was quite exciting!
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 3:37pm

Why would you consider him gay?


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Registered: 07-28-2005
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 4:39pm

I don't think there is anything wrong with you at all. You deffinately sound curious though. In my opinion if you are in a committed relationship that you cherish wipe the thoughts right out of your head because threesomes have separated many. However if you think you will simply not be able to live out your life in this curiosity I have a talk with your signifucant other and see what his take is on it.

Good Luck!

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Thu, 07-28-2005 - 5:34pm

Nothing is "wrong" with you. You just sound bi-curious to me and many people are.

Girl on girl does nothing for me personally, just watching two women kiss makes me squirmy. But many women and men say that seeing same sex activity is erotic to them. Not sure that too many men would admit to it though.




Edited 7/28/2005 5:38 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Thu, 07-28-2005 - 8:05pm

I like the *idea* of female/female action ... but the practice itself doesn't appeal to me.


I think that's a perfectly natural and very common response. Use it to your advantage. Dh likes to watch female/female porn, so I just enjoy it with him.

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Registered: 04-25-2005
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 9:18pm
Theres nothing wrong with you hun. Lately Ive thought about hooking up with girls too. I love my boyfriend and would never choose a chic over him but I do have these fantasies and it turns me on when I see two girls go at it on tv. Id deff like to rent a porn with two chics hooking up. And it doesnt necessarily mean youre bi or lesbian. Maybe you are just "bi-curious". I know Im curious as to what it would be like to pleasure and recieve pleasure from a girl since girls know what eachother want. One day ill fulfill my fantasy to see if im really bi.
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Registered: 07-27-2005
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 9:22pm

Nothing at all is wrong with you. You are perfectly normal, whatever normal is. A lot of women are curious.

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