Curious question....women input needed

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Curious question....women input needed
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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 8:26pm
Ok, this is kinda a weird question. I have experienced women that have a developed clitoris and some that have almost nothing there. My question is this: It is true or close to true that women that have a very very small clitoris find it harder to achieve orgasam? The reason why I ask is becasue I personally have found that either I lack the skills to satisfy a small clit woman or there is some truth to my theroy. There is no problem with women that have some sort of clitoris.....so is it me?

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Registered: 01-04-2007
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 9:49pm
Well, everyone's different and the size of the clitoris can vary...I suppose a smaller clit may mean less nerve-endings - which could make it harder to arouse a woman in that manner...However...it's important to note also that the clitoris is quite like a penis in the sense that it gets a kind of "erection" when stimulated. Once it is really exposed from under the clitoral hood - sensations are a lot stronger. Maybe women with "smaller" clits just need more stimulation to get them there? Hey - I'm just a young'un but that's my say in this.
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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 11:11pm

Thanks for the reply. I agree with you that everyone is different and I understand what you are saying. I just wondered if there was some sort of link between the two. I have to believe that the last girl I was with that had a small, almost non-existant, one either couldn't get enough stimulation or just wasn't into it.

It kinda makes sense that if it takes alot more stimulation then those women may not orgasm as often? Or as easy.

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 11:49pm

Since the clitoris is the female equivalent of the penis, if your theory was correct, it would follow that a man with a small penis would find it harder to reach his climax than a man with a large penis. We know that's not true. The clitoris, large or small has many times more nerve endings than the head of a man's penis. The clitoris, just like the penis, consists of more than you "see". The clitoris has a shaft that goes deep into the vulvar tissue, just as part of the the penis' shaft is inside the body.

The one big difference is that the nerve bundles that are in the clitoris go into the vagina and form the "g" spot.

When it comes to orgasms, most women have to learn how to have them, and also allow them to happen. If a woman doesn't know how, or hasn't learned how to let herself go, and LET the orgasms happen.....the size of her clitoris has nothing to do with it. Unfortunately, a lot of a woman's sexual drive comes from her brain as well as her genitals, and it's usually the brain that's preventing orgasms, not the genitals. A woman can feel pleasure from clitoral stimulation, but still might not know how to let the orgasms happen. The majority of women who are anorgasmic don't have a physical problem, they have an emotional or mental block concerning them.

I think your experience(s) with women with various sized clitorises is just coincidental. If a scientific study was done, I don't think size would enter into a woman's ability to have orgasms. The best lover in the world can't "give" a woman orgasms if she doesn't know how to have them....no matter what the size of her equipment.

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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 9:04am

Exactly the response I am looking for. I get it....and see that you're right. Guys (me) are a little too logical, and that's where my curiousity came from. Thanks, I appreciate your input.

Why was the pratice of clit removal installed in Africa and other places? Was it to remove the pleasure aspect of sex? I really don't know.....again my logical side talking.

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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 1:30pm

>>I have experienced women that have a developed clitoris and some that have almost nothing there.<<

Like different sized penises it's all still there and it isn't a matter of "developed" or "undeveloped". Just different.

>>or there is some truth to my theory.<<

Not in my experience.

>>Africa?<<
From wikpedia:
"These include the belief that it annuls or moderates sexual desires in women. It is also believed that it is more hygienic. Frequently the practice is associated with traditional initiation rites. Some believe religion justifies the practice. In some cultures there exists the belief that a newborn child has elements of both sexes. In the male body the foreskin of the penis is considered to be the female element. In the female body the clitoris is considered to be the male element. Hence when the adolescent is reaching puberty, these elements are removed to make the indication of sex clear."




Edited 1/5/2007 1:33 pm ET by westridge2001
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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 2:32pm
Thanks, I learned something. I appreciate everyone's response.
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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 5:50pm
I can only speak for myself. I have a smaller, less prominant clitoris and I've never had any problem with arousal or orgasm. I am multi-orgasmic.
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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 5:52pm
Doesn't matter what size the clitoris is, it has double the number of nerves of the average penis. So, regardless of size, the function will be the same.
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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 6:02pm
I see, so now that I have learned I can grow. Thanks for helping me understand more. I am thankful that there is a fourm like this to bounce questions off of.
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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 6:05pm
I agree. I wish it had been around when I was a kid.

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