Curiousity question for the guys....
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Curiousity question for the guys....
| Sat, 10-09-2004 - 12:01pm |
Very curious to understand: why does it matter if a woman swallows?
It seems that guys like it so much (I know mine does, and from reading various posts here seems it is common). I don't mind doing it from time to time, but I just don't understand why having him come in my mouth is a different feeling for him, than him doing it and me swallowing?..
Anyone can explain this?

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It is totally about acceptance. It is also sexy, warm, erotic, fun. It feels better.
I want a woman not to feel disgusted or gross.But feel very satisfied.
I do not understand why some women have a reluctance. There are some women who always want you to come in their mouth. Those rare women make great lovers believe me. There are some women who don't mind from time to time. And then there are women who do not want to at all.
I reckon they are selfish. Limited lovers.
I would have no hesitation if a woman was female ejaculating into my mouth. I wish. That would be incredibly sexy. i haven't experienced a woman who has cum with ejaculate.
Just my 2c
I would venture to disagree with you. I have rarely swallowed -and when I do it's not usually *all* of it - and yet DH and I have been having sex together for 20+ years with no complaints on either side. He would never consider me selfish - or limited. Not with the things we've done! I'm glad for you that you've had the rare experience of a woman who does swallow, but DH wouldn't trade all that we've shared for a few seconds of gulping.
It may be an idealistic thing of men, that it's 'complete acceptance of all of you' etc etc, but the reality is, for many of us it's hard to swallow something that is the consistency of warm egg whites. Sometimes it's just plain hard to do - it has nothing to do with *him*.
Oral sex is but one, but a very important, part of intimacy. Loving habits of 20 years cannot substitute specific physical acts Tally, your love for DH will outweigh all other manifestations.
But for those less assured and at love's crossroads, to swallow completely is a better look; a better path; a nice giving gesture. It has a lot do do with him and it speaks eloquently of you.
I do have a question kinda off topic for the guys. After your SO gives you head, do you like her to kiss you? Or does that turn you off?
My bf will not let me kiss him afterwards. My ex did and I loved that.
My DH doesn't feel that way at all and we've discussed it many times over the years and I have swallowed and he doesn't feel it adds anything to his experience. So, HIS conclusion, as well as mine, is that I should do what is most comfortable for me, so I choose to spit.
And your comment that women who don't swallow are "selfish and limited lovers" is also presumptive and incorrect.
There are all kinds of reasons why a woman won't or even SHOULDN'T swallow. If he is a new partner and his history is a question, absolutely not. IF she has been sexually violated in the past, particularly, being forced to perform orally and then swallow, absolutely not. And even if she just isn't comfortable with the thought of taking bodily fluids down her throat. My feeling is that the provider should make that choice herself, with no pressure from the recipient.
Edited 10/25/2004 4:32 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
"My BF won't let me kiss him after giving him head." Now, that's rude, IMO. He's essentially saying that it's okay for you to take that in YOUR mouth but don't expect ME to kiss you afterwards.
So, you see, there are many opinions of what is rude, so no one can say what is right or "rude," definitively, for anyone else.
Edited 10/25/2004 4:25 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Ah, so I see. I matter not at all - it's what HE wants that's important. I'm not a person who is entitled to choose what I wish to do sexually, just a receptacle.
Now it's all crystal clear...lol.
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