Day dreaming during sex....

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Registered: 10-05-2006
Day dreaming during sex....
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Wed, 01-03-2007 - 8:00pm
i seem to have a hard time concentrating during sex....not getting started but once we are having sex i think about work, friends i need to call back, errands i need to run...HELP!
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Registered: 10-18-2006
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 11:42am

Yikes, that can't be good for things!

Have you tried to focus on what is happening? For me, I get so lost in the moment I forget I even have kids, jobs, bills, etc. I do know, if I stop and think about what is happening it can sometimes inhibit things, but maybe that is what you need?

 

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 5:25pm

Actually, pretty common problem for women...we are the multi-taskers! It can be hard to concentrate on what's going on if you can't let go of other responsibilities in your mind. But.....

maybe sex isn't as pleasurable for you as it should be. Does your partner provide enough foreplay and the RIGHT kind of stimulation to keep arousal high? Does the stimulation that got you aroused stop with penetration? IF so, then there's your answer right there.

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Registered: 10-05-2006
Sat, 01-06-2007 - 9:08am
thank you! i will try and focus on the current moment and not the work i need to finish!
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Registered: 01-17-2007
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 10:15am
Oh honey...I do it too. Unfortunately life is like that, rush rush dont forget hurry hurry. Sometimes I even catch myself glancing at the laundry basket and mentaly calculating how many loads I have to do!!!
I dont think its a big deal until it starts taking over completely to the point that sex isnt fun or stops all together.
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Registered: 01-18-2007
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 7:55pm
thanks! wanted to make sure i wasnt crazy.
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Registered: 01-17-2007
Sat, 01-20-2007 - 1:30am
LOL nope not crazy....well its possible, but not likely!
Honestly as long as its still good dont fret.....life is busy and hectic, be glad you actually have time for sex!