This Debate might make your Blood Boil!

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Registered: 03-31-2007
This Debate might make your Blood Boil!
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Tue, 03-11-2008 - 3:13pm
Dr. Laura Says Women Share the Blame for Husband's Infidelity



http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/23575221/



Who's side are you on?



Interestingly enough, it's the man in this group who says men who cheat on their wives are selfish. There were some other interesting things said too -- I'll paraphrase some of them here:



- Men have a need to sow their seed, fed by the primal urge, which passed the trait down through heritage.



- The more successful and important a man is, the more likely he is to cheat.



- Men need validation from women, starting at birth. If they don't get that validation from their partner, they are more likely to cheat.



Now, the big one (from Dr. Laural) ...



- When a wife doesn't take care of him, he makes a decision to repair what's damaged, to feed himself where he's starving. She holds women responsible for tossing out good men by not fulfilling their needs. (Hmmm, could this have anything to do with validating her own actions?)





Here are some questions to answer ...



Do you think it's a primal urge for men to cheat?



Do you think the urge was passed on with their heritage?



Do you think men cheat to validate their manhood?



Do you think hormones make them not look at their activity?



Do you think men should be able to think for themselves instead of with hormones?



Do you think women are to blame for men cheating?



Any thing else you would like to add to the discussion?









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Registered: 11-17-2007
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 4:34pm
I don't particularly care for Dr. Laura. She may saying in effect that in an ML situation the HL partner should be dictating sexaul frequency. However, as a permanent HL whose formerly LL DW became HL a bit over three years ago the reality is that the LL partner almost always dictates frequency. One quick look at our ML board confirms that.


Edited 3/12/2008 4:40 pm ET by nitsforever
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Registered: 03-03-2008
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 5:41pm

Thanks for the soup Misty :D


that sounds like a good idea for lunch!

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Registered: 06-24-2006
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 9:58pm
Sorry, but I dont really think much of Dr Laura and her opinions, in her view I would be classified as a cheap woman (the word I really wanted to use would violate tos)

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Registered: 04-06-2007
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 1:01pm

***Cheating isn't always about just the sex, many times it's about loneliness,

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Registered: 12-26-2007
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 11:23pm
Im not going to answer any of those questions, i just have a comment. Men and Women who cheat on there spouses do not need to be married. There is not a good enough excuse for me, its wrong. If you have that urge to cheat then seperate or get a divorce before you do something that stupid.

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