Deciding Not to Cirmsize? Good or bad?

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Registered: 08-05-2007
Deciding Not to Cirmsize? Good or bad?
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Sun, 08-05-2007 - 12:13pm
What do you men think about not getting circumsized? Prefer it? Think it's gross? Are you yourself fully uncut??

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sun, 08-05-2007 - 12:29pm

It's not a decision most men make for themselves. It's done shortly after birth, or usually not at all. Very few grown men get themselves circumcised.

There is nothing gross about either way. There's very little difference, except UNcircumcised men have a little more to keep clean. When a penis is fully erect, that extra skin usually goes away, so it has little bearing on sex. It is said that a man who isn't circumcised has a more sensitive "head" because it's normally covered, and doesn't get rubbed by underwear or clothing.

Jewish men have been circumcised for thousands of years....they have no choice, it's a part of their religion. Other religions don't demand it. It's something that comes and goes in and out of favor. It was done routinely to newborn boys for the last 50-60 years, but now people feel it's not "natural"....and many don't do it. I had three sons, two were circumcised, one wasn't because of a slight abnormality of the penis. While cleaning them as babies, the uncircumcised one was a lot more work to keep clean.

I've been with men who were, and men who weren't, and from my perspective, there was NO difference.

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Registered: 08-05-2007
Sun, 08-05-2007 - 12:41pm

Hey guys, fyi, there is a big difference. It's not that much harder to keep clean. Guys wash their s anyway in the shower with everything else. I've dated men who weren't circumsized. The drawback to being circumsized is you feel much less during sex- but they don't know what they're missing. As far as not having a choice, this is very true. I wanted to opt not to have my son circumsized but everyone was telling me to do it- my aunt, mom, even his father. We are all white anglo-saxon US citizens here, no Mexicans, etc. in the fam. on either side. I do regret it. Now, that I am not with his fahter and have dated the uncircumsized ones, I personally would prefer one who was not. But yes, it is a decision parents make for their children. Choose wisely. Mistakes can happen and sometimes do.

Sakura, thanks for the answer. ;)

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Sun, 08-05-2007 - 2:19pm

I have no preference,

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Sun, 08-05-2007 - 3:07pm
I'm not circumcised, and neither is my son.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 08-05-2007 - 3:17pm

Do not do it.

There are good articles on the web about it, one by Dr Christine Northrup and another by someone named O'Hara.

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Registered: 08-05-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 10:45am
Very good. I think it's better that way. I wonder if it is the norm where you are, or did you and your parents buck the system?
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 11:00am

I definitely will not. There are to many chances for mistakes, not to mention the deliberate action of cutting the skin off. I don't get it. We are here in 2001 with advanced medicine and we still have people thinking that it is necessary to cut it off. Duh!! It doesn't make sense to cut off what God gives you at birth.

I was actually just wondering how many people would say for or against.

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 11:03am

As the mother of 2 sons, one circumsized (not by my choice) and one not (by my choice) I can tell you a story. When my first son was born I was very young and newly married. They circumcized him (my XH signed for it) within 20 feet of my room. I knew when I heard him screaming that it was him and I was frantic because he sounded like he was in so much pain and he cried for hours after that. The nurses told me what was wrong (they circumsize baby boys with NO pain killers or numbing). The poor little guy was still whimering when they finally let me have him 3 hours later. I have to say I can't blame him. Nowadays, the surgery area where they do circumcisions is not close to the OB area. Therefore you don't hear them screaming when they are strapped to a board and cut with nothing for the pain.

After that I decided that if I EVER had another boy I would not allow them to hurt him like that. When my youngest son was born ten years later I had researched the pros and cons of circumcision and made the decision that if he wanted circumcized he could have it done himself when he was 18. At least then he could make a concious desicion to mutilate his own body. When you have a baby that isn't circumcized the most important thing is to remember to pull the foreskin back COMPLETELY when you bathe him. By the time my youngest son was 4 years old I let him take over that chore but I watched him for another year or so to make sure he was getting clean enough. After that I would just ask him for a while longer (another year or so) if he did it when he came out of the bath. By then it is engrained in them to take care of themselves.

Its a personal choice, but I don't agree with it and I never will after hearing my oldest boy crying in terror and pain for those hours after it was done to him. They will NEVER convince me that experience didn't effect his view on the world.

BTW .. my youngest son (who is now 23) has thanked me for not doing that to him. He was one of the only uncut boys in school but now since he is married he is glad that he is uncut.




Edited 8/6/2007 11:04 am ET by tami-kins
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 11:17am

"It doesn't make sense to cut off what God gives you at birth."

Using that same reasoning, then why would anyone want to remove pubic hair?

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Registered: 07-24-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 11:21am

I am as is my son. It is a personal decision and I did what my wife and thought was right. I was in the room when my son had it done, he cried for about 2 minutes and then went to sleep.

As for it being more sensitive for sex being not being circ, if that is the case, I am GLAD I am because I can't imagine it being more sensitive and great feeling than it is to me the way I am. I already have trouble lasting a long time being cut so if being uncut makes it even more sensitive, I might cum before I even get it in.

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