Deciding Not to Cirmsize? Good or bad?

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Deciding Not to Cirmsize? Good or bad?
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Sun, 08-05-2007 - 12:13pm
What do you men think about not getting circumsized? Prefer it? Think it's gross? Are you yourself fully uncut??
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 11:26am
My point exactly. I'm for the natural stuff myself- uncircumsized, hairy pubic area, breastfeeding, etc. The more natural we are, the better. Why people do the strangest things is beyond me. And to think that much of this stuff has been done for so long and by so many, that they think it's perfectly mormal. Let's push the natural and make the old normal the new normal again. ;)
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 11:30am
Oh the horrors. To think about it makes me feel bad. I feel bad for a lot of things that have been done in my situation alone regarding my son. But I do have the future to work with still. I will focus on that.
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 11:40am

--As for it being more sensitive for sex being not being circ, if that is the case, I am GLAD I am because I can't imagine it being more sensitive and great feeling than it is to me the way I am.--

Ditto. I'm "snipped" and believe me, I sure don't have any complaints at all about a lack of sensation.

I've never felt any less of a man nor have I ever felt I was "mutilated" because I'm circumsized. Fact is, the wonderful woman I am married to loves the fact that I am circumsized. Soon after we met we had the following conversation:

Her - "Uh, I have a question..."

Me - "Yes?"

Her - "Are you circumsized?"

Me - "Yes."

Her - "OHTHANKGOD!"

Notice that I have a tendency to say "yes" a lot during our conversations...thankfully, so does she. :-)


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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 2:50pm

I'm not an expert, but how old are you pappy?

Logic would dictate that as a man who was circed ages, the amount of friction applied to the head of the penis would become accumulated with time and would further and further desensitize the head. I know my husband has become less sensitive and he is circed and now 52. I do wonder. Just think of natives in the wild. Think of the bottom of their feet and how nature provides them with shoes (callous) over time. ;-)




Edited 8/6/2007 2:51 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:10pm

I know my DH is 54 and circumcised. He is no less sensitive than he was when we met, no calluses either. It's still baby soft and very reactive.

I think this is an interesting argument, but I think it is one that most people can only speculate about. While the uncircumcised guy doesn't brush against underwear and such, he is constantly brushing against his own protective skin. I really think the only people that can say for sure about the difference in feeling are those that have actually had sex with a foreskin and then later without.



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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:24pm

The head is cushioned by the inside of the foreskin (which is the same basically as the inside of the mouth). Imagine the mouth without lubrication over time?

You can also apply it to that of your own clitoris and its hood. Could you imagine not having a clitoral hood? I would imagine that it would still be sensitive, but it is only logical that it would take a lot of abuse over time without the hood.

I agree that those without, and eventually with would know better. But I would think that a man who at 45 who had a circ, and who after a year reports that there is no difference, just wouldn't be the same as a man who has been circed for 45 years.

My DH's penis is still very soft--I don't think that it's truly noticeable. I wasn't being literal (with the callous), just figurative.

In any event, it is well known that many older men take longer to orgasm. There are other factors at play, for sure, but who is to say that circumcision doesn't contribute at least somewhat? I try and imagine what my own clitoris would be like for 50 or so years without the hood. I truly cannot say that it would be the same as with. That was my only point. ;-)




Edited 8/6/2007 3:27 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:32pm

I don't think it would really make a difference as far as sexually. At least I don't think they would know. It doesn't matter to me if a man is or is not either. They all seem to work the same. Circumcision is just something I would never force on an innocent baby again. Sure its harder to teach them to keep themselves clean (years of diligent watchfulness of my uncircumcized son), and if they don't stay clean it can cause a lot of problems. But I would never advise anyone to do that to their child after what I heard and saw and learned about later. Its still a personal choice if someone decides to do that to their children but I wish they would actually read up on it first before making that desicion. I may be too soft-hearted but I couldn't hurt my second son that way.




Edited 8/6/2007 3:33 pm ET by tami-kins
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 5:53pm
I was born in the UK, where the *don't circumcise* movement caught on about a generation earlier than it did here in the US. DW and I chose not to circumcise our son because I'm not circumcised, and because we're opposed to performing unnecessary medical procedures, especially on children who have no say in the matter.

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Tue, 08-07-2007 - 12:40am

I am uncircumcised. I won't get too deeply into the debate over sensitivity during sex - while logic says to me that there must be a difference I'm not entirely sure that anyone knows the truth of the matter or whether or not its a significant difference anyway.

I don't think that it is gross. From a cleanliness point of view it is not any harder to keep clean than any other part of my body. It gets washed as part of my routine and I never have to think about it. Provided a parent gives a child guidelines as they learn to wash themselves I can't see why there would ever be any problems with hygiene. Surely it can't be any worse than a vulva to wash?

As for appearance, it might seem odd to someone that has seen only circumcised men, just as circumcised might seem odd to those that grow up around uncut men. You get used to what you know.

In this country the circumcision trend stopped a couple of decades ago and now fewer than 10% of men are circumcised at birth. There are no genuine medical reasons to do it. It's un-necessary surgery, mistakes can happen, and unlike pubic hair like someone-else mentioned, I've never heard of a foreskin growing back if you decide that you don't like it chopped off. Lastly, personally, I suspect that masturbation feels better when uncircumcised - I suspect that the soft skin of the foreskin sliding back and forth across the penis will feel better than just a hand :-) For that reason alone, I'm pleased to be uncircumcised.

Your choice. But I wouldn't do it to my son unless there was a good medical reason. If it ain't broke, and its how nature intended it, don't try to fix it.

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Tue, 08-07-2007 - 7:14am

You seem a little on the defensive side about it. Be proud of the fact that your parents didn't take that part of you away from you. You are preaching to the choir here, sir. I put the quetion out there to see how many answers I got that were for not circumsizing. I was talked into circumsizing my son and have regretted it. It's not the kind of thing you can go back and undo. It seems that in the culture I live in, circumsized is just taken for granted. I hope to some day be with a man who is not. That would go along with my values.

As far as it looking strange, yes, it might but when I was with the few that were not cut, it was dark in the room and I didn't get a chance to look. I have seen photos on the net (doing research) of the uncircumsized when soft and it did look a little strange, but I knew that what I had grown to see as normal was not. I would gradly get used to such a "strange" looking thing and I'm sure, in time, that would look "normal" to me.

Also, with the pubic hair, that was me too. ;) I'm looking to see how most peoiple feel about thse things and how many like the natural way.

I am curious when you say, my area, where you mean. Where is it where circumsision became unpopular 20 years ago. I would love to live there.

As far as masturbation goes, I am sure you are right. The skin on the hand can be very rough, depending on what you do for a living. I've dated men with very rough hands. I am sure they prefer the real thing to their hand. ;)

I totally agree with you.

Thanks for the info. Take care. ;)