Deep sex hurts!!

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Deep sex hurts!!
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Thu, 08-05-2004 - 9:38am
I have been with my current boyfriend for 1 month. I've only been with 2 other guys in my life and he is the most adventuresome I've ever been with in bed. He talks dirty and does some amazing things, but when he starts going hard and deep it really hurts me and I pull away. I almost always feel like I have to go to the bathroom as well, even if I had just gone. Is something wrong?
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 10:55am
"deep sex"......he's hitting your cervix, and that IS painful, and if he continues, he will do damage. Let him be adventuresome in ways that don't cause you pain. If he's "pounding" that deep, he's probably also pounding into your urethra, and the irritation there will make you feel like you need to urinate. Tell the boy to be gentle with you.
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Registered: 05-21-2004
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 11:15am
it might just be your body slowly getting used to deeper sex. for me- deep sex always was a little painful- but with my current BF- it just took a little time, going slower to get my body used to feeling it in so deep...now i FREAKING LOVE IT!! the deeper the better...but it did take a long time for my body to get used to it,,,just go slow and don't put pressure on yourself...it will happen when it's meant to!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 11:42am
Yes, something is wrong if you're experiencing pain and you SHOULD stop. We experience pain for a reason so don't ignore it. Ignoring pain, like ignoring your intuition, will only get you in trouble! LOL!

His erection may be curved slightly differently or he may be slightly longer than your previous lovers or approaching you from a specific angle that's not good for you. Experimentation will help to solve those issues though.

Don't hesitate to speak up when you aren't enjoying what he's doing anymore and stop to adjust or correct the problem. It's your body and your experience, so take charge of it.

And there's nothing wrong with telling him to be more mindful of deep thrusting.




Edited 8/5/2004 11:57 am ET ET by katmandoo2001

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 3:25pm
Hi cheesehead!

As Green stated, you may be suffering cervical pain from thrusting that is too deep, particularly when its the hard and deep thrusting. My own wife & I go through this rarely ourselves, but it does happen. Outside of that, there's no pain whatsoever.

Never hurts to doublecheck by placing a quick call to the doctor, in my honest opinion. If you haven't visited them already, you can also try the nice folks at the Sexual Health message board:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhgensex

Good luck, and uh, see you at the Packers/Vikings game? LOL! ;D

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Thu, 08-05-2004 - 5:14pm
You didn't say which position you were in when the deep sex, but for me deep sex hurts when I am laying on my back. But I love deep sex when I am laying on my stomach (it is my favorite). If you haven't tried it laying on your stomach I highly suggest it.
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Registered: 01-04-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 12:06am
I have had that same experience, it took a while, but now its very comfortable and a turn on.

Just give it some time :)