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Deep sex hurts!!
| Thu, 08-05-2004 - 9:38am |
I have been with my current boyfriend for 1 month. I've only been with 2 other guys in my life and he is the most adventuresome I've ever been with in bed. He talks dirty and does some amazing things, but when he starts going hard and deep it really hurts me and I pull away. I almost always feel like I have to go to the bathroom as well, even if I had just gone. Is something wrong?

His erection may be curved slightly differently or he may be slightly longer than your previous lovers or approaching you from a specific angle that's not good for you. Experimentation will help to solve those issues though.
Don't hesitate to speak up when you aren't enjoying what he's doing anymore and stop to adjust or correct the problem. It's your body and your experience, so take charge of it.
And there's nothing wrong with telling him to be more mindful of deep thrusting.
Edited 8/5/2004 11:57 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
As Green stated, you may be suffering cervical pain from thrusting that is too deep, particularly when its the hard and deep thrusting. My own wife & I go through this rarely ourselves, but it does happen. Outside of that, there's no pain whatsoever.
Never hurts to doublecheck by placing a quick call to the doctor, in my honest opinion. If you haven't visited them already, you can also try the nice folks at the Sexual Health message board:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhgensex
Good luck, and uh, see you at the Packers/Vikings game? LOL! ;D
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