Define this

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Registered: 02-21-2007
Define this
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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 5:44pm

What does it mean?
Speaking of course of a married/taken man.

When a man says/posts that his TURN -ONS are:
The female form.

Going down on a clean and hairless (or nearly hairless) - WHOOHAAA ......

Tans.
& Open minds.

It is mostly the open mind that has me wondering.....

Can anyone give me a clear defination of what he could possibly mean here?

"What can I say?  I'm just different."

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Registered: 05-04-2007
In reply to: ibbilli2
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 6:14pm

he wants to cover you in honey & do it on the ceiling

Open mind: open to new things, new ideas, not stuck in a rut or old ways, willing to try or even discuss things that might be considered kinky or dirty, accepting/tolerating of alternate lifestyles, practices & people

but specifically, it could be anything

it could be as mild a finger up the butt (his) or a wild as cross dressing & animal costumes

Is this YOUR married man? Are you worried he's shopping for a friend

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: ibbilli2
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:27pm

Welcome to the board ibbilli2.

I think tulips-together gave you a great explanation about open minds. As to what it means to your guy, you can only find out by asking him or trying new things and seeing what he seems to like. If it were me, I'd probably just ask him.

I was doing some searching today, and found these links:

What Turns Him on Most -- at 25, 35, 45
http://www.redbookmag.com/289148

Sex: What Men Really Want at 25, 35, 45
http://www.redbookmag.com/532214

I think you will find some great ideas if you look them over.



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Registered: 02-21-2007
In reply to: ibbilli2
Fri, 06-29-2007 - 10:17am

Thanks tulips!
That was a great answer!!! Gave me some ideas any way!!!

Let's just say I like to keep my eyes and ears open when it comes to any situation that may involve him. Cautious is my middle name!
To answer your question - yes and the thought crossed my mind. That may be why I questioned the actual profile on a sex "video/photo" site he recently joined and I have noticed hangs out periodically through out a day. He did say Married on the profile;however nothing in reference that he is satisfied with me and our sex life.
( BTW - if that got any better , one of us would pass out from it-- ;0) ** )
I am just cautious, I guess.

Again, Thanks for the response!

"What can I say?  I'm just different."

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Registered: 02-21-2007
In reply to: ibbilli2
Fri, 06-29-2007 - 10:28am

Thanks Cl-misty!
I will definatly be looking at some new things to try. The articles will help.
I try to keep an open mind myself and allow new ideas to enter our steamy encounters....
I guess the main thing I am not into is the 3-some deal.(MFF) He says he is not either; however, he 'looks' at it alot on that site he signed on with.
Myself-I don't see how someone can be turned-on by watching another woman with their hubby nor another man with their wife...
Hey - I'm not judging here -To each their own- it's just not for me.

I do ask if he is satisfied with me and our sex life on occasion; if there is something he is missing that he is not getting. He reassures me that it has never been better. (former life) I guess I just try to stay informed ; therefore he won't roam..... ;)

Again, thanks!!!

"What can I say?  I'm just different."

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: ibbilli2
Fri, 06-29-2007 - 10:46am

"I guess the main thing I am not into is the 3-some deal.(MFF) He says he is not either; however, he 'looks' at it alot on that site he signed on with.
Myself-I don't see how someone can be turned-on by watching another woman with their hubby nor another man with their wife... "

Often, the desire, especially for men is to see another female with their wife (or two females together). I have read on many posts here about couples who use porn to fulfill this fantasy, and others that go to strip joints and buy a lap dance for the wife. It's not something that I've done, but you might want to ask him if he's wanting to see two women together.

Does he know that you are aware of his membership in the adult site?



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Registered: 02-21-2007
In reply to: ibbilli2
Fri, 06-29-2007 - 11:23am

Oh no-
I don't believe he is aware that I actually know he is a 'signed up' member of this particular porn video site.
I know he is into porn as well as erotic stories. We do share these together often, watching rented movies(the 3 deal too)as well as reading the penthouse stories together. We don't search online and watch it together tho- He does that oh- so - secretly.

We have talked about the 3 deal as well. If it is an actual fantasy of his- of which He told me he had already had that actual fantasy acted out and it was not all he thought it would be.
He tells me it would probably hurt our relationship if it acually happened with us because of our commitment.
I really think it is just that- a fantasy but I just have a feeling he would enjoy seeing another woman with me/us but not another man.
Let me say that I am so into him that I personally can not imagine another man touching me, mush less being in the room with us-period.
The ole Double standard is what he says it is..... HA! What is good for the goose does not mean it is good for the gander, eh?

"What can I say?  I'm just different."