desperate for advice

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2003
desperate for advice
2
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 3:19pm

Hi,
I'm currently seeing this guy from time to time, but it's not like we're in a relationship. Things are good but there's this one thing that kinda bugs me and I really need some advice. Things can get kind of wild between us but it's he that takes the initative. And for once I would like to take the initative and really send him over the top. The problem is that since I'm not so experienced I have no idea what to do. So please, I'm in desperate need of some suggestions about what to do to give him a night he'll always remember.

Thanks!
Bofia

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 3:34pm
You'll have to find out from him what he really likes and what will send him over the edge.

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Registered: 09-11-2004
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 7:35pm

Bofia,

>>And for once I would like to take the initative >>

How about asserting control as things progress. For example, as he is kissing you, enjoy it, then cut him short in a nice way and say 'now, kiss me here' and point or say or whatever hits your fancy to where you want to be kissed. This way, you are 'controlling' him.

And if you so inclined, try a blind fold on him. You don't have to be the Mistress with the whip (check out the taboos board if you do!), but in sexy and subtle ways, you can add a little more of control.

Or try a hidden clue game with you as the prize, getting him to do things along the way. Start out with a clue in the morning (via email or by his toothbrush, depending on if you are living together or not) telling him what to wear, then another hidden or delivered later telling him how you want to be greeted when he comes home or you see each other.

Your teasing him, but in doing so, you can take control of what happens. Or tell him how you want to be taken, etc, etc, etc.

I think you get the point.

Good luck and let us know how it turns out,

krn :o)