Desperately seeking help
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Desperately seeking help
| Tue, 05-24-2005 - 10:58am |
Ok, here is an overview:
the sex is hardly ever at all any more
the I love you's aren't as often
the frustration is high
the stress is high
we never have any money and there are 6 kids to feed
negative thoughts are his only friend these days-everything is screwed up
and school will be out in two days
I can't stand this any more, why can't I leave this man. He is always saying mean things, and he never considers my feelings. I have chest pains and I know it is from stress yet I see the good in this man and although I can not pin point the reason's right now I do love him. I just can't seem to let go.
Any PH'Ds out there????

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No PH'D here but you can't change anyone but yourself.
IF he won't go for counseling or make an effort to work with you to solve your problems, then you should ask for help from family and friends to move out if he won't.
Won't be easy but your health is being affected now and what would happen to your children if something happened to you?
This man is abusive, verbally and mentally
my ex quit his job and was fired from the previous two, the judge deleted his arrears and modified his support to practically nothing. He had an attorney, I represented myself because could not afford one.
I find it hard to just leave a relationship. I know he is stressed and frustrated. I want to help him, I just can't financially. I do the best I can with what I have.
The rent for apartments here is way to high and I can not quailfy for a house due to bad credit because of the divorce. OK, enough excuses, what advise is next, believe me I am all ears.
You said yesterday that he spanked the one kid so hard that everyone in the house was scared to death.
I know what you are saying but have you ever been in this situation? It is easy to give advise when you are not in the situation. You have strong feelings about this, obviously, as I do.
I am not trying to look like a beauty queen. I have posted issues that are effecting our relationship, seeking advise, and suggestions not judgement, having a low self esteem is one of them. there are many. Please don't be so quick to judge me as I am NOT sitting back and watching and allowing children to be hurt. But do you think a 5 foot 3inch, 110lb woman can stop a 6 foot 4 inch 210lb man from doing much other than calling the police again. They don't do anything!! and because they don't do anything there is that wonderful thing called retalliation (don't know how to spell it)
Sounds like you're making excuses for him as much as for yourself. How will you feel if he kills one of your children one day when he totally loses control? It happens everyday.
Your children depend on you as their mother and stepmother to protect them and you aren't doing your job. No one is judging you but I'm a mother and I would do whatever I had to to protect my children. If it's call the police 10 times a week until they DO listen or remove them from the environment completely. At least, your children will know that you are doing SOMETHING!
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