Did you feel Pressured to Loose your ...

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Sat, 04-05-2008 - 10:40am

Did you feel Pressured to Loose your Virginity?



  • No, I was committed to making my own choice.
  • No, not at all.
  • Yes, but I didn't cave into it.
  • Yes, but I was ready at the same time.
  • Yes, I wish I had been stronger.
  • I wasn't given a choice :(
  • Other, please explain.


You will be able to change your vote.






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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 10:42am

Don't know how this ended up with a thumbs up emoticon on the topic!!!! Grrrr at not being able to edit that out.

I chose "No, I was committed to making my own choice."





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Sat, 04-05-2008 - 10:53am

I voted *No, I was committed to making my own choice.*

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Sat, 04-05-2008 - 11:11am
(((Tish))) that's such a healthy attitude. I think what you're saying is all so true. It's good to hear that you were able think that, even when you were younger and the incident was more recent.




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Registered: 09-08-2007
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 12:11pm
I voted other because of some convolutedness to the reason why I lost my virginity. Ok, I met my fiancee in college and he was (and still is to my eyes) a hottie. But he had a GF, so nothing could happen, but goodness did I want something to happen. I met a guy and started dating him and about 2 months into the relationship, slept with him (and dumped him about a month later when he drank 3 fifth bottles of tequila and 13 shots and cheated on me). My now-fiancee's then GF had broken up with him, and that opened up our chance to cool the heat between us (he teased me unmercifully while we were hanging out at school). Shortly after we started sleeping together, I realized the only reason I had slept with Guy #1, was so I could sleep with my fiancee (who wouldn't take a girls virginity, it came up in random conversation, a lot of the conversations around my group of friends in college revolved around sex, huh). Oh, and I was 18 and felt ready to move on to a new stage in my life. (Or something like that anyways.)
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Sat, 04-05-2008 - 12:52pm

Yes, but I was ready at the same time.


I find this answer somewhat ambiguous but it fits my situation certainly.


In my case I did feel pressure as there were countless conversations between my BF and I as to the reasons I was unwilling. I got the ever famous "if you loved me you would" talk but was not swayed in the least. I had stuck to my initial feeling of making sure I had the right person for my "deflowering".


Just before I went away to college I got a romantic notion in my head and decided that this was the time, this was the right person.


I was correct about the former and egregiously wrong about the latter. LOL


Mrs P

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Registered: 10-07-2007
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 11:20pm
I voted: No, I was committed to making my own choice.
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Sun, 04-06-2008 - 9:05am

Diana, I spent a great deal of time wondering about that when I was young, but more so after I lost my virginity. I'm very happy with the decisions I've made.

On the flip side of that, it has to be an awesome feeling to know that the two of you share something very unique to the two of you. No comparing to past lovers in any respect.





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Registered: 10-07-2007
Sun, 04-06-2008 - 7:03pm

On the flip side of that, it has to be an awesome feeling to know that the two of you share something very unique to the two of you. No comparing to past lovers in any respect.


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Registered: 08-09-2007
Sun, 04-06-2008 - 9:56pm
I really didn't know which one to vote for so I chose "other" I was ready to lose my virginity, but when and how it happened, I wasn't ready and was force into it. But since him and I were a couple, I just gave in and let him.



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Sun, 04-06-2008 - 10:26pm
I voted "wasn't given a choice".
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