DIFFICULT TO ASK

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DIFFICULT TO ASK
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Sun, 12-04-2005 - 8:35pm
DON'T THINK THIS IS A STUPID QUESTION...HERE IT GOES....CAN AN AVERAGE SIZE PENIS (APPROX 6in) FIND PLEASURE IN AN AVERAGE SIZE VAGINA (PER GYNECOLOGIST) THAT EXPERIENCES LOTS OF LUBRICATION? OR DOES THE PENIS NEED TO FEEL LOTS OF FRICTION TO BE PLEASURABLE TO THE MAN? IS THIS DEPENDENT ON THE MAN'S EMOTIONAL STATE ALSO?
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Sun, 12-04-2005 - 9:08pm

I guess that would depend on the man.


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Sun, 12-04-2005 - 10:43pm
You would have a problem if you had too little lubrication, not with too much. JMHO as a man.
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Sun, 12-04-2005 - 11:30pm

Have you had complaints? Being well lubricated is also "average"....and with all these averages going on, I don't see where there would be a problem.

Don't forget one thing. I don't even know what an "average" sized vagina is....but no matter what size it is, it will relax just enough to envelop a penis. When a woman isn't aroused, her vaginal muscles are closed tight.......when she IS aroused, they relax only as much as they need to. They don't fall open into a gaping cavity.

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Mon, 12-05-2005 - 2:03pm

Well, speaking as an average sized woman who produces plenty of natural lube, with an averaged sized DH.....yes, he can find pleasure just fine.

IF your guy has complained or you aren't feeling much yourself, then tissue off when necessary and change positions until you find one that provides more friction.

Believe me though, it's better to produce too much than too little!

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Mon, 12-05-2005 - 8:48pm
SORT OF....WHEN WE FIRST MARRIED I HAD NEVER HAD INTERCOURSE. I DIDN'T LUBRICATE VERY MUCH, IF ANY, AND I WAS ALWAYS BEING TORN. I WAS ALWAYS AROUSED, AND ALWAYS ORGASMED WITH MANUAL/ORAL STIMULATION, BUT I BURNED WHEN MY HUSBAND WOULD EJACULATE. I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT WAS GOING ON, SO I FINALLY ASKED MY GYNO AND HE SUGGESTED I BUY LUBE. AT THAT POINT, MY HUSBAND STARTED TO TRAVEL WITH HIS JOB. I DID SOME RESEARCH AND DECIDED TO TEACH MYSELF TO ENJOY INTERCOURSE. SINCE THEN, I GET SUPER AROUSED VERY EASILY AND PRODUCE LOTS OF NATURAL LUBE. IT HAS BECOME A PROBLEM FOR MY HUSBAND SAYING THAT NOW HE DOESN'T FEEL WHEN HE'S INSIDE ME ALL THE TIME. THERE ARE TIMES WHERE I DON'T FEEL HIM ALL THE TIME EITHER, BUT I ENJOY THE EMOTIONAL PART. HE DOESN'T REACH HIS MAX POTENTIAL DURING INTERCOURSE WHICH IS GREATER THAN 6 INCHES. I KNOW THAT MY INCREASE LUBRICATION IS SOMEWHAT OF A PROBLEM, BUT HIS NOT GETTING TO HIS FULLEST SIZE ALSO IS PART OF THE PROBLEM. IMO. WE'RE HAVING OTHER DIFFICULTIES IN OUR MARRIAGE, SO THAT IS WHY I ASKED ABOUT THE EMOTIONAL SIDE OF IT. I WANT SEX ALL THE TIME, BUT HE DOESN'T BECUASE OF NOT FEELING. HE ADMITTED TO ME THE OTHER DAY THAT "LET'S FACE IT, OUR SEX ISN'T GOOD." I DON'T THINK THAT WE'LL BE TOGETHER MUCH LONGER, BUT I'M UPSET ABOUT A MAN NOT FEELING PLEASURE WHEN HE'S INSIDE ME, IF I EVER HAVE ANOTHER SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP.I FEEL LIKE I'M STRETCHED OUT OR SOMETHING, BUT MY GYNO HAS ASSURED ME THAT I AM OF NORMAL SIZE DOWN UNDER AND I HAVE STRONG KEGAL MUSCLES. I AM VERY UPSET ABOUT THIS, AND YOUR KNOWLEDGE IS GREATLY APPRECIATED. THANKS. :)
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Mon, 12-05-2005 - 9:19pm

The vagina doesn't stretch out.


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Mon, 12-05-2005 - 10:27pm

I have a feeling that your husband is not comfortable with your new, self-taught, sexuality; he is perhaps even threatened by your empowerment.

May I ask about your cultural/ethnic backgrounds? Your ages?

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Tue, 12-06-2005 - 12:09am
The fact that he told you that your sex together is not good and that he doesn't think that the two of you will be together much longer indicates that he is unhappy in this marriage. I don't thing anything is wrong with your vagina or your wetness. I think your husband is telling you these falsehoods to lower your self esteem!! Don't let him do it!!