dildo's

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Tue, 08-30-2005 - 12:44pm
hello, this is the deal. i'm in the military and i'm gone from home alot. i'm well endowed and my wife have wonderful sex life. i recently bought her a realistic type dildo. it came in the mail but it quite wasn't the one i ordered, it was bigger(thicker) when i talked to her she said it was huge. she said she wouldn't use it and i talked her in to using it, well she liked it alot. she said it touched all sides up and down. which is good, i asked her to give me a description of the experience. you know the feeling and the org. but she doesn't want to give me that description. she's used three or four times now sinse i've been gone. i'm pleased it satisfies her but i would like to get a feeling of her experience. am i wrong or what for wanting to know should i ask her not to use it any more? please advise if anyone can
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Registered: 04-21-2004
In reply to: mooch2005
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 12:59pm

I'm not sure I understand. You're gone from home a lot, so you gave your wife a dildo for all those lonely nights. So far, so good. Now you want her to stop using it? Why?


FWIW, I can assure you from experience that your wife using a toy larger than you won't diminish her desire for the real thing when you're around, nor will it diminish her enjoyment of your flesh and blood penis. If anything, it'll keep the home fires burning and you'll have a happy wife to come home to!


My wife has several dildos of varying sizes, ranging from smaller and thinner than me to freakin' huge! She enjoys all of them, and we occasionally use them when we're together. Its exciting to use the dildo on her for a couple of orgasms before I enter her. By the time I'm inside of her, we're both super turned on - her from the sex and me from watching. Give it a try sometime.

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Registered: 08-30-2005
In reply to: mooch2005
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 1:36pm
roger understand what your saying we actually have a couple, but this ones is new, larger than me, the point is i would like her to tell me the feeling it gave her the ohhh's and ahhh's that's what i should have said.
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Registered: 04-21-2004
In reply to: mooch2005
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 1:51pm

Oh - I did misunderstand. I don't know how to get her to describe it for you. Some people just aren'tthat comfortable or that good at describing sex. Maybe you should consider letting her use one on you, and you'll get a first hand experience of what it feels like to be penetrated.

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Registered: 10-15-2004
In reply to: mooch2005
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 2:18pm

Mooch,
I completely understand your question. In the past, I have asked my wife to describe what a very large penis/dildo feels like. She also was very hesitant to describe the feelings, sensations, and pleasure she got from it.

I think women are very sensitive about it because they don't want to cause a problem with our ego and/or feelings getting hurt. I can understand why though because I'm sure if your wife asked you to describe the pleasure you get from seeing a naked woman on porn or in a magainze. You wouldn't want to describe it fully because you wouldn't want to hurt her feelings or make her feel insecure about her own body.

I will tell you this though. She has told me that it is an unbelievable experience to feel so "filled up" and stretched. The orgasm is very intense and different, but not necessarily better than with me. Just a different sensation.

I wouldn't push too hard to get her to describe it to you. Bring the subject up mildly for a while. Let her know that you are not uncomfortable with the fact that she may have very intense and different orgasms from the dildo. Over time, she will trust that you will not be hurt by it.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: mooch2005
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 3:36pm

I don't think you're wrong for wanting to know, but she's not wrong for not wanting to tell you.


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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: mooch2005
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 3:50pm

Why not just wait until you get home, then you can witness the ooohs and aaaaahs first hand.

I have a feeling that you're worried that because it's bigger than you, she'll like it better than you! Not to worry, latex (or whatever it is made of) can never replace a real man no matter WHAT size it is!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mooch2005
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 3:58pm

I think you need to leave your wife alone about this. IF your intent was for her to have an alternative to sex with you while you were gone, that's great but did you also tell her that you expected a full report every time she used it?

It's obvious that she feels uncomfortable describing her experience OR she would do so willingly. Don't pressure or coerce her to do something she isn't comfortable with, in this situation or any other.

IF your real concern is that she won't be satisfied with you once you get home, then be honest about that instead of asking for graphic descriptions that she doesn't want to provide. Having sex with an inanimate object, no matter how big it is, can in no way compare to sex with the man you love.




Edited 8/30/2005 3:59 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Registered: 12-01-2003
In reply to: mooch2005
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 4:28pm

i agree with katmandoo and mooch !! Plastic or w/e it is HA! You cant compare that to your REAL-Life man.

--But, haha. My boyfriend told me to get a dildo. He said it jokingly, but i dont think he was joking. I won't get one.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: mooch2005
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 7:13pm

I agree with all the others. Either it's outside her comfort zone trying to describe the feelings she's getting during masturbation, or she doesn't know how to talk about it without hrting your feelings, or she gets the feeling that you are somewhat jealous of the toy and are asking because you feel a little insecure. Whatever it is, as the others have said, while the toy can be a great deal of fun it is never going to be a good as a whole real life man.

Don't tell her to stop using it. Forget about getting her to give you a blow-by-blow description of the sensations. Let her have her fun and be satisfied that you've been able to help her have some pleasure while you are away. Perhaps you will be able see her use it or help her use it when you get home (but don't keep asking how it feels, just watch and enjoy).

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Registered: 08-30-2005
In reply to: mooch2005
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 1:12am
thanks for everones advice, tracking i'm leaving her alone about. we talked on the phone alls good