Wow, only to so young again!! Sounds like fun! We are in our 50's. so doubt this scenario would ever happen. But when we were young, who knows?!?! I would discuss it first with my wife, in your case you hubby. Since you are giveing us your comments and your fiends, well, what do the men think about it?? I would dress sort of sexy I guess. But I would be dressing for my SO, not the other couple. What does hubby like for you to wear? How far to go? well that is up to you and your hb. Since you were only topless this first time, and both seemed comfortable sitting there in the 'lights' topless. were your men undressed at all, or fully clothed?? This second time you might go a little farther. Like 'playing below the belt? You went below his belt, did he do the same to you? Do you both climax? did your friends? Depending on those answers, it sounds like maybe you did everyting but intercourse?? Need some more details as to how far you both went this first time to give advice as to how far to go this next time? One more question? Are your considering a foursome??? Might really discuss that with hb first. Once everyone is 'hot' who knows where this may lead to?? But be carefull also. You do not want to ruin a friendship either. Keep us posted as to what your thoughts are. I am sure move advice is coming from fellow board members. Have fun!
I would go and enjoy myself by following the other couple's lead. It is their home, so let them dictate how far to go. I expect that this time will be oral--it's the next step. The next time intercourse, etc. It is a lot of fun having sex with other people either in the same room or sharing, so I would allow the moment to happen and relax because it may not happen again.
It depends how comfortable you are. It sounds like fun to me! They seemed to have initiated the whole episode at your place, so it seems they're okay with it. Talk to your husband beforehand and see what he's comfortable with doing while you're there. If the two of you are into it but hesitant, you can always see how far your friends go and then follow. If you're both doing it, no one should feel embarrassed about it after. If they start doing it and see that neither of you are, they might get uncomfortable!
Just curious - but does anyone really "accidentally" leave X rated DVD's on the coffee table for visitors to see when they come around? Sounds more likely that someone in your house wanted to start some sort of conversation.....
I'd say that the apology was twofold - it was an icebreaker to start a phone conversation about the subject. Otherwise, it would have been "Thanks for dinner, it was fun" kinda call without any mention of what happened. Secondly, given that everyone was drinking at the time and after the cold light of day had given you time to think about what had happened, you might have been upset. By starting with an apology, she got to sound you out and figure out how you felt about it now that a couple of days had gone by.
How far do you AND your husband want it to go? The sky's the limit really. You have no idea how far the other couple wants to go so you have to assume that they may be happy to try anything and everything, including swapping partners - and not just necessarily wives - the husband might be bisexual LOL! You just don't know! It's more likely that it would lead to lesbian sex, swapping partners and full intercourse and oral sex for everyone of course. It is their house and I would suggest that you follow their lead. They may not want to swap partners or go too far.
You and your husband should talk about this. It's exciting but is it really what you want? If you feel comfortable with having sex with the other couple are you prepared to watch your husband kissing and having intercourse and an orgasm with the other woman? Vice versa, would he be comfortable seeing you have sex with the husband? What do you do if either of you suddenly gets terribly jealous in the middle of it all? If it all went well, would either of you be allowed to see the other couple on your own during the day or at other times? Would your husband be allowed to nip around to her place for a quickie during his lunch hour? And what happens if you find that you start to get emotionally involved and falling in love? What if your husband said that he just didn't feel comfortable and wanted to stop seeng them? Would you be able to stop or would you feel that he was holding you back and then resent him? One last thing, if you eventually lost touch with this couple, does this mean that you would be trying to find another couple to do this with in the future? Or is this a "one-off"?
Something to think about, isn't it?
Think about it and talk with your husband and make sure that the two of you are open and honest about this with each other. It can destroy a relationship just as easily as it can introduce a bit of fun.
How far to go? well that is up to you and your hb. Since you were only topless this first time, and both seemed comfortable sitting there in the 'lights' topless. were your men undressed at all, or fully clothed?? This second time you might go a little farther. Like 'playing below the belt? You went below his belt, did he do the same to you? Do you both climax? did your friends? Depending on those answers, it sounds like maybe you did everyting but intercourse?? Need some more details as to how far you both went this first time to give advice as to how far to go this next time?
One more question? Are your considering a foursome??? Might really discuss that with hb first. Once everyone is 'hot' who knows where this may lead to?? But be carefull also. You do not want to ruin a friendship either.
Keep us posted as to what your thoughts are. I am sure move advice is coming from fellow board members. Have fun!
Sounds like a fun night.
Just curious - but does anyone really "accidentally" leave X rated DVD's on the coffee table for visitors to see when they come around? Sounds more likely that someone in your house wanted to start some sort of conversation.....
I'd say that the apology was twofold - it was an icebreaker to start a phone conversation about the subject. Otherwise, it would have been "Thanks for dinner, it was fun" kinda call without any mention of what happened. Secondly, given that everyone was drinking at the time and after the cold light of day had given you time to think about what had happened, you might have been upset. By starting with an apology, she got to sound you out and figure out how you felt about it now that a couple of days had gone by.
How far do you AND your husband want it to go? The sky's the limit really. You have no idea how far the other couple wants to go so you have to assume that they may be happy to try anything and everything, including swapping partners - and not just necessarily wives - the husband might be bisexual LOL! You just don't know! It's more likely that it would lead to lesbian sex, swapping partners and full intercourse and oral sex for everyone of course. It is their house and I would suggest that you follow their lead. They may not want to swap partners or go too far.
You and your husband should talk about this. It's exciting but is it really what you want? If you feel comfortable with having sex with the other couple are you prepared to watch your husband kissing and having intercourse and an orgasm with the other woman? Vice versa, would he be comfortable seeing you have sex with the husband?
What do you do if either of you suddenly gets terribly jealous in the middle of it all? If it all went well, would either of you be allowed to see the other couple on your own during the day or at other times? Would your husband be allowed to nip around to her place for a quickie during his lunch hour?
And what happens if you find that you start to get emotionally involved and falling in love?
What if your husband said that he just didn't feel comfortable and wanted to stop seeng them? Would you be able to stop or would you feel that he was holding you back and then resent him?
One last thing, if you eventually lost touch with this couple, does this mean that you would be trying to find another couple to do this with in the future? Or is this a "one-off"?
Something to think about, isn't it?
Think about it and talk with your husband and make sure that the two of you are open and honest about this with each other. It can destroy a relationship just as easily as it can introduce a bit of fun.
Edited 11/13/2006 12:03 am ET by westridge2001
Edited 11/15/2006 8:00 am ET by penye2006