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| Wed, 06-28-2006 - 11:28am |
How do I get my guy to talk dirty in bed? I'm pretty blunt and open about sex and I've even said while in bed "talk dirty to me" or "I wanna hear You". I think he tries but its usually the same type of thing and not exactly the "get me there" words I'm looking for?
Any tips?
Any tips?

Agreed.
As men, we get a lot of conflicting messages about what is appropriate and inappropriate with women, and women don't seem to have reached any agreement either, 'cept the guy "should have known better". I know one well educated and literate woman who refers to parts of her body using the same "C" word that many other women consider absolutely offensive. A sensitive (or smart) guy will always chose to err on the side of caution, you may want him to talk dirty, but part of him is probably scared silly that if he says one word "too dirty", he's in big trouble.
Make sure he understands you asked for it, and you won't toss him out if he says "too much". Lead by example, and ask him leading questions to provoke the response you want. AND, don't get offended by anything he does say. :)
I'm not so sure it's always about giving conflicting messages though, lickity, although that definitely happens. But more about varying sensitivities and tastes.
Not all women (or men, for that matter) enjoy hearing that kind of language, in bed or out...even from a Spouse or SO. One can't assume that because one woman enjoys it, that another will, so proceed with caution AND communication first...the CLEAN kind.