dirty talk???

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Registered: 12-01-2003
dirty talk???
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Thu, 04-27-2006 - 12:54pm
so me and my ex have been getting together every so often again for a round or two. but it weird now, all of a sudden he's very like...i guess...raunchy is the word. he wants me to talk dirty and to tell him what i want...i never did that before when we were together, and he never asked. it was always just good sex. so i got a little uncomfortable during it because he really wanted me to say something...i tried but i just couldnt get anything out, because i just dont talk like that...which is what i told him. so he's like it's just you and me, whats wrong. but he just doesnt seem to understand that i cant talk in that way. and it kinda ruined the mood a little. any thoughts???? (i think he's just been watching way too many pornos or something...hehe...but i def am not a porno chick) thanks!
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 9:25am

Why are you wasting your time with your "ex"? Does it really matter what he wants? He's looking for "a round or two".....and he's getting it.

As long as you're continuing your relationship with your ex, you'll never move on. (Sex, with or without "dirty talk" isn't going to get him back!)

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 10:08am

I watch a pretty good amount of porn and I don't hear much in the way of dirty talk. Hell, It'd be a miracle if they got men to say more than: Oh yeah, Oh yeah

There's nothing to be ashamed of, when you're naked and getting freaky, it's ok to talk freaky too. Start simple, tell him which body parts of his feel good against your body parts, just don't use the proper names like Penis and Vagina, not dirty :)

I was pretty bashful at first, but I've gone on to like it as it drives my DW crazy. it's not something we do each and every time either, otherwise it could get boring.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 1:52pm

IF this getting together for a "round or two" is just meant to take care of your mutual occasional "needs", then do what you want to and nothing more. You don't owe him the experience of his life.

Why try to get over something or attempt to do something for someone you have no commitment to anymore? Save that for a real relationship.

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Registered: 12-01-2003
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 6:50pm
well i must say thanks to cerryl who actually tried to answer my question. as for the others...maybe you get too many people having emotional issues with getting their ex back or something on these boards, but i have to say that i didn't ask your opinions on anything but the dirty talk...to make your own assumptions about anything else is absurd and uncalled for. i am not looking to get my ex back and i am not giving him sex because he wants it. i am doing it for my own pleasure along with his. i enjoy sex, he does it well, and i'm not looking to just sleep around with more and any random people. we broke up a while ago and caught up with each other both knowing what we were meeting up for. the reason i would like to appeal to his desires is because i would want the same for me if i had any...also because it turns me on to turn him on.......get that? anyways, just letting you know that you shouldn't answer questions with some self-opinionated moral answer that has nothing to do with it, i'm old enough to know what im doing and was caught off guard with the responses.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 10:42pm
Sorry you feel that way, but this IS an opinion board which means that you will get ALL KINDS. And yes, some you may not like.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sun, 04-30-2006 - 3:15am

Hi, snakegoddess.