Disappointed with sex toys
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| Sun, 11-19-2006 - 10:14am |
My DH and I tried sex toys for the first time, in 26 years of marriage. Unfortunately, we were both disappointed. I think that maybe the shopping experience may have spoiled the whole experience. We were going away for our 26th wedding anniversary and figured that would be a good time to try toys. We didn't have time to order online, so went to a local store. I was nervous to start with, then the whole time we were shopping, the Sales girl followed and watched us! She did not leave us alone for one minute. Needless to say we quickly made a purchase and left. We probably didn't make the best decision. Also, the price of the toys was double what we had seen online, we felt like we got ripped off. But, I knew my husband really what to try this so I figured it was a good anniversary gift.
When we actually tried the toys, we got something for each of us, the vibrator I got really didn't feel that great. Could the whole negative shopping experience have had an impact? To be honest, I'm not sure I even what to try it again. Looking back, the whole experience really made me feel cheap and sleazy. My DH would like to try again, please help!

It could be your shopping experience or it could be you're just not into sex toys or you were a bit inhibited with using them.
It certainly could be the shopping experience. It's not easy to enjoy something that made you feel cheap and sleazy. Mind you, my wife wasn't overly thrilled with her first vibrator either - in fact it sat in the bedside cabinet for months until she pulled it out and tried it again. She hasn't looked back since.
Perhaps you just need a little time for the disconcerting shopping experience to fade a little and some practice with the vibrator to find your spots?
We have a ton of sex stores in our city, but my husband & I like to look online...there's more variety & usually better prices - plus we don't have to deal with experiences like you had...even the "nice" sex shops seem sleazy. There are some good sites online that have good information and are very good for couples & women...my husband are I are both fans of toys & have had some great sex with our toys...you've just got to find the right toy(s) at a place that doesn't make ya feel dirty! Good luck! :)
ps - I'm a newbie on the boards & haven't introduced myself - I'm Beth. 26 years old & married with no kids (yet!) I work in business and my husband is a teacher... hi everybody!
Hi Beth - welcome to the boards. Enjoy your fun with your husband and your toys - you're a lucky lady. Stay in touch with us - you sound like a welcome addition.
Rich
Rich, good to the last drop