Dissappointed in bed

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Registered: 07-10-2006
Dissappointed in bed
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Tue, 01-09-2007 - 3:27am
Everytime me and my partner has had sex, he has ejaculated with in 2-3 minutes of the act, i dont know what to do or how to talk to him about this problem, How do I talk to him about it? I am always leaving unsatisfied and feeling used because i got nothing out of it but, needing to take a cold shower. He blames it on the fact we dont see each other alot, and is that valid reason? or what actually could be causing this? Help please!!
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 8:36am

He can learn how to control his ejaculations with the start/stop method and by controlling his thoughts


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Registered: 01-07-2007
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 5:29pm
He needs to practice holding off his ejaculation. Whether it's practising with himself while masterbating, or with you. He needs to think of non-sexual things when he is about to come and keep himself from coming. My husband always wants to please me before himself, so you need to get the point to your bf that he needs to think of your needs to. Maybe he can try those desensitizing lubrications or something too. Good luck.
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Registered: 01-17-2007
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 10:11am
Your man does have a point about not seeing eachother often having an affect on sex. He is super excited to see you, very horny, and obvioussly not the best at self control. But its not an excuse!!!!! You need to come right out and tell him that your not satisfied. You deserve to be satisfied as much as he does. If he continues to make excuse and becomes a jerk about the situation then I would simply walk out...cause if he doesnt care enough about your pleasure he doesnt care enough about you!