Do I ruin all of my sex partners?

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Registered: 08-27-2004
Do I ruin all of my sex partners?
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Mon, 10-18-2004 - 6:17pm
Could I possibly ruin all of my sexual partners?

I was in a long term relationship with a man for about 9 years he was 31 at the end of our relationship. After he turned 30 the sex was awful. He often could not get an erection and if he could he he only lasted about 5 minutes.

I then became involved with another man he was 36 years old and we had a lot of passion but we were never able to have intercourse because he could not get an erection.

I am now involved with a man who is 29. We began having intercourse 2 months ago. It was wonderful, the best sex of my life. But the last 3 times it's the same old story.

Although he has no problem getting an erection he only lasts about 5 minutes.

I try to be understanding and when they say they can't hold out any longer I always say

"It's OK" But I have to be honest it is not OK. I need to have an orgasm.

I am so frustrated. Can I approach the subject with my current lover? Will I really hurt his ego? am I doing something wrong. I try to be really into the sex and I enjoy

sex very much. HELP!!!!

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 6:29pm

Have your guy help you reach an orgasm before intercourse through manual and/or oral stimulation.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-19-2004 - 3:27pm
Having orgasms during intercourse is not the "norm" for most women. As Tish has said, it would be better to have him assist you in reaching an orgasm first through manual or oral stimulation. Then let him have his kicks in his 5 minutes of ecstacy.
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Tue, 10-19-2004 - 5:10pm
Well the problems you discribe are probably not age related. If a man is going to last long enough to please his woman, the first thing is that he must WANT to please her. Sounds like your men are a little selfish. Some men, if allowed to do so, will only think about themselves. Talk to him and tell him what you expect.