do most guys do this????
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do most guys do this????
| Mon, 11-01-2004 - 7:55am |
Question for guys or girls. Just curious....in a newer relationship, do most guys typically "pull out"? Is this an intimacy issue, or are they just strictly not taking chances with pregnancy? Does this ever change, like once you've become exclusive or long term, and the girl is on the birth control, etc.?
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that's cute!!! *thumbs up*
I think that it's going to be one of those things that is discussed one way or another before it happens. I must admit though, unless otherwise discussed, I am very probably going to ejeculate in her if we have decided to have intercourse without a condom and she is on the Pill.
I know that pregnancy is always a concern but once an uncondomed penis has been inside you, you better have those concerns dealt with because withdrawal is not a very safe method of contraception. Withdrawing and ejeculating outside your body is not going to stop you getting pregnant.
I think that's the difference between you and I if I understand what you are saying correctly. I have addressed the pregnancy concerns before deciding to have the unprotected intercourse and am totally comfortable with the precautions that we have taken. I'm OK with the internal ejeculation. I have no residual need to re-affirm my wish to avoid pregnancy by using the unreliable withdrawal method at the last moment.
Wow. Lots of complicated words in that sentence.
I don't know if two people in a developing relationship always discuss birth control options and cumming inside before finding themselves in bed. When those private parts touch, logical thinking sometimes fades.
Putting aside the simple fact that no one outside a committed, monogamous, long term relationship should be having unprotected sex (ever hear of AIDS?), if you don't know someone well enough to discuss birth control, you don't know them well enough to have sex with them!
Hell, even when I was a footloose teenager in the 70s (back when penicillin could cure anything) and a working musician in the 80s, I
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Learn something new every day, I suppose....
They have a name, BTW, for people that rely on withdrawal for BC purposes. It's called "Parents". I would hope that the guy-if he is worried about pregnancy or BC info-would have gotten that info before he got in that deep.
True. Maybe it's not discussed in depth.
I would hazard a guess that a woman gasping a quick and passionate "I'm safe" is enough for most guys. Those two little words in themselves are a discussion and permission. Other than the odd drunken or drugged-out romp I can't imagine many situations where contraception ISN'T discussed - even if it's only one or two words that are used or where actions speak louder than words and assumptions are made. ie. she didn't stop me so I assumed that she was on BC.
I simply don't know where the line got drawn to separate intercourse and internal ejeculation. The natural conclusion of intercourse IS ejeculation and orgasm. I can't see how suddenly people are talking about getting permission for one AND/OR the other.
>>there may be a drop or two of pre-cum, but it's nothing like ejaculating a tablespoon or two inside her body.<<
Obviously you don't realise how risky any unprotected sex is. A drop or two is enough. Sure, it's not like teaspoons of the stuff, but can you tell me what the odds are exactly? And what if you are a moment too late and ejeculate on her vulva as you withdraw? Withdrawing before ejeculation is doomed to fail if avoiding pregnancy is the only goal. The odds are against you and you should be using birth control.
If you ARE on birthcontrol and have given permission for intercourse why on earth shouldn't a guy expect to ejeculate inside you?
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