do most guys do this????

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do most guys do this????
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 7:55am
Question for guys or girls. Just curious....in a newer relationship, do most guys typically "pull out"? Is this an intimacy issue, or are they just strictly not taking chances with pregnancy? Does this ever change, like once you've become exclusive or long term, and the girl is on the birth control, etc.?

thanks!

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Registered: 01-25-2004
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 7:16pm
Ooh ooh I wanna join the party...sorry I should probably keep my mouth shut and just let this thread die, but there were some comments about this being a "next generation" thing. But I'm 20, and while I'm not sexually active (in the technical sense) most of my friends are, and all my guy friends are. And we are exceptionally open about discussing such things. And I have to agree that its not generally expected for the guy to pull out. All of my friends are very careful about pregnancy, so BC and condoms are always discussed first. But once thats taken care of, its pretty much assumed the guy is gonna come inside her (in my circle of people at least). Most of my guy friends would rather wear a condom than pull out, and most of my girl friends on the pill figure once they're having intercourse with a guy with no condom, ejaculating inside is a given. I asked a few of my girl friends what they would think if a guy pulled out and the general consesus was "why would he do that" and "where would he come." Hehe, the latter of which I think is a good question, cuz if you're having sex with a guy and he pulls out and comes all over your tummy, breasts or face without asking you may be a bit surprised and insulted. At least if he comes in you its a SLIGHTLY more controlled mess.

Angel

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Registered: 10-27-2004
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 9:56pm
"Question for guys or girls. Just curious....in a newer relationship, do most guys typically "pull out"? Is this an intimacy issue, or are they just strictly not taking chances with pregnancy? Does this ever change, like once you've become exclusive or long term, and the girl is on the birth control, etc.?

thanks!"

You said: And in answer to that question, of the nearly 20 lovers that I've had, I've never had a man pull out.

But there was a part two(really 3, but I'm eliminating the third for now) to the question posted. And since you've only had men who came inside of you, you can only answer the first part "do most guys pull out.

Some of the other posters did give the answers to part two(yes they can have a fear of pregnancy, and no they don't necessarily fear intimacy).

You may be qualified to say that it's not 'normal'(average) for a man to pull out.

However, you can't say whether a man who does pull out 'normally' has intimacy issues and fears pregnancy based on your experience.

P.S. From my own experience, a man who pulls out due to fear of pregnancy, is perfectly normal and doesn't necessarily have intimacy issues. Men who pull out, are more common than you think too.






Edited 11/2/2004 11:03 pm ET ET by nobodysfool2day

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 10:19pm
Honestly, it's so true.

Intimacy issue??..perhaps, I mean, we're all speculating but I think in most cases guys want to make sure they're not givin away babies along with their loads...lol I think that would be the main reason why a guy would pull out.

Almost ALL of my male friends tend to pull out and/or have asked their gf's/partners if that is what they want.

Maybe it IS a generation thing, who knows. It's VERY common from what I'm exposed to. I'm @ a university where sex is everywhere..and it's something I hear about A LOT to tell the truth.

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