Do women actually want sex?
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Do women actually want sex?
| Mon, 01-07-2008 - 9:41pm |
I keep hearing everywhere that women are supposedly more sexual men, but to be honest, I can't help but think it's a lot of hooey. If women enjoyed sex as much as men, then why do so many women still use terms liked "giving it up" and "making him work for it"?
Either way, I can't help but feel like such attitudes about sex are extremely condescending and self absorbed. Is sex with you so great, or sex with us so miserable, that you consider it a gift or a favor you give to us? Are we so unworthy of your affection and desire that we have to work to prove ourselves worthy of it?
Why can't I "give it up" for a change instead of waiting to receive? Why can't she work for it for my sexual favor?
Edited 1/7/2008 9:42 pm ET by megadose

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You've obviously met the wrong women.
"but they also don't feel like they have to give it up to every Tom, Dick and Harry that sniffs around them. "
There it goes again; the phrase "give it up." Please tell me why you feel like you're "giving up" something? What exactly are you surrendering?
"Why should they? Sex isn't a sport.....it's an expression of love and intimacy. Most women with self respect will wait until they're sure the man is worth their time and effort, and cares more about them than just about the sex they can get."
Because it doesn't always have to be about love and intimacy. It can be about fun and pleasure and the excitement; the thrill of going all the way with someone you just met.
"There it goes again; the phrase "give it up." Please tell me why you feel like you're "giving up" something? What exactly are you surrendering?"
We obviously have something YOU want!
"We obviously have something YOU want!"
Okay, so are you saying here the women infact do not want sex as much as men?
"And some women are particular about who gets it. Why does a man think what HE's got is something special? There are a million of them around"
I could very well ask the same thing. What makes your lady-parts more special than all the other ladies'-parts out there?
I never said that, and I can't speak for all women.
I don't believe one gender is more sexual than another, it's about the individual.
Welcome to the board, megadose.
If you're finding casual sex to be thrilling, then what you need to do is encounter women who also find casual sex to be thrilling. To just expect any woman that you meet to feel the same way is a great example of narrow-minded thinking. If you are disrespectful to her by making unwelcome advances, then it is likely you would hear her say something like "you expect I would just give it up for you?" In the case of you wanting it and her not wanting it -- then yes, it is a prize that you're seeking and she isn't willing to give up for the amount of effort that you have put into seeking your reward (sex in this case). Some women have no interest casual sex. Some women will have sex if they feel you have "worked for it" -- that could be buying her dinner, taking her to the movies, or spending hours on the phone with her. It all depends on the individual person. FTR, there are also men who don't engage in sexual activity unless they feel their relationship has met a certain mark.
In today's world, many people fear casual sex because of STIs. I don't think the thrill of having sex with someone I've just met would outweigh the necessity to protect my life. I'm sure there are many men and women who feel that way. The need to protect you life goes deeper than just worrying about getting an STI. Placing yourself in a position to be completely vulnerable with someone you don't know or trust -- especially someone who might be physically stronger than you -- is just a bad decision. Sex should be fun and thrilling, but not life threatening.
>If you are disrespectful to her by making unwelcome advances, then it is likely you would hear her say something like "you expect I would just give it up for you?"<
To which I can reply, "I'm not asking you to give me anything. I'm giving it up for you. I'm doing you the favor."
>In today's world, many people fear casual sex because of STIs. I don't think the thrill of having sex with someone I've just met would outweigh the necessity to protect my life. I'm sure there are many men and women who feel that way. The need to protect you life goes deeper than just worrying about getting an STI. Placing yourself in a position to be completely vulnerable with someone you don't know or trust -- especially someone who might be physically stronger than you -- is just a bad decision. Sex should be fun and thrilling, but not life threatening.<
There is a little invention called the Condom, you know?
I am well aware of the invention of the condom. I wonder if you are well aware that it does not offer a 100% guarantee? There are many things we can play Russian Roulette with ...
Perhaps the attitude that you are doing her a favor is the very thing that is becoming your hindrance. I personally only prefer to stroke worthy egos -- those that are considered worthy by my own choosing.
How Smart are Your Balls?
>>>"I'm doing you the favor"<<<
Rich, good to the last drop
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