Do women actually want sex?

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Do women actually want sex?
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Mon, 01-07-2008 - 9:41pm

I keep hearing everywhere that women are supposedly more sexual men, but to be honest, I can't help but think it's a lot of hooey. If women enjoyed sex as much as men, then why do so many women still use terms liked "giving it up" and "making him work for it"?

Either way, I can't help but feel like such attitudes about sex are extremely condescending and self absorbed. Is sex with you so great, or sex with us so miserable, that you consider it a gift or a favor you give to us? Are we so unworthy of your affection and desire that we have to work to prove ourselves worthy of it?

Why can't I "give it up" for a change instead of waiting to receive? Why can't she work for it for my sexual favor?




Edited 1/7/2008 9:42 pm ET by megadose
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Wed, 01-09-2008 - 11:19am

I'm glad I "get it" and it is really too bad that some men, while they will "get it" once in a while they will never really "get it". After saying that I have to put in a disclaimer that I believe is appropriate - I have by no means figured out the female mind.

Fred

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Wed, 01-09-2008 - 11:50am

I knew you'd enjoy watching someone else take the shots.

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Wed, 01-09-2008 - 12:00pm

Have read the post thus far and I still maintain that, in the general populace males want sex more than females desire it. For males it usually is initially desired without commitment. For females there seems to be an emotional attachment required before any sensual activity is preferred. It has amazes me why females can’t aggressively enjoy the male anatomy without having some form of attachment. Sure wish I had met a female who had experience in the art and manor of romance.

Maybe that biological norm is what keeps rampant population and disease within a balance of nature.

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Wed, 01-09-2008 - 12:18pm

Welcome to the board, windarrow, and thanks for joining in.

"males want sex more than females desire it"

I don't think that's what the OP was saying, but I think it does bring up another point that many here would disagree with.





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Wed, 01-09-2008 - 1:43pm

I wasn't referring to the female MIND, lol

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Wed, 01-09-2008 - 2:28pm
Sakura, I saw your recent post, and just want to say "CONGRATULTIONS" on having a new partner!!!!




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Wed, 01-09-2008 - 2:34pm

Hi and welcome windarrow. It's nice to meet you. Stick around and jump in anytime. The people here are wonderful.


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Thu, 01-10-2008 - 12:29am

Thanks Misty.......but he's not new........he's been around for a while......he just comes and goes like the tides.

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Thu, 01-10-2008 - 5:44am
I think that everyone is different no matter how hard people try to make generalizations. There will be some women that find sex boring and that would rather watch tv or read a good book then have sex. On the other hand there are plenty of women that love sex and enjoy it just as much as
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Thu, 01-10-2008 - 3:37pm

Wish to thank sakura2006 for knowing that I have been here before. I “come and go like the tide” because there is income producing work to be accomplish. When there is a client they want it yesterday or the day before. That doesn't allow me much time to get on this board as much as I would like or respond in a fashionable way.

Now to answer your questions. "A" Yes. "B" Emotionally separated. "C" To me the art of romance is any sensual act between two people that creates feelings of arousal, a zeal for the other person. Hope that gives you an insight into my personally.