Do women actually want sex?
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Do women actually want sex?
| Mon, 01-07-2008 - 9:41pm |
I keep hearing everywhere that women are supposedly more sexual men, but to be honest, I can't help but think it's a lot of hooey. If women enjoyed sex as much as men, then why do so many women still use terms liked "giving it up" and "making him work for it"?
Either way, I can't help but feel like such attitudes about sex are extremely condescending and self absorbed. Is sex with you so great, or sex with us so miserable, that you consider it a gift or a favor you give to us? Are we so unworthy of your affection and desire that we have to work to prove ourselves worthy of it?
Why can't I "give it up" for a change instead of waiting to receive? Why can't she work for it for my sexual favor?
Edited 1/7/2008 9:42 pm ET by megadose

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Oh my goodness. I'm sorry. I didn't realize you've been here before.
That tells me any woman would be
Sorry windarrow........that post wasn't about you.
Have you spent any time over on the Mismatched Libidos board? I'd think a couple of hours over there would be enough to disprove this notion. There are plenty of mismatches out there between HL women and LL men, it just isn't talked about as much.
My wife and I have mis matched libidos. I want sex all the time.Matter of fact I want it right now! She too thinks of it as giving it up, giving in. Or here is your weekly/monthly sex allowance. It has gotten better in the past few years. She made it feel like I had to earn sex. I took on more duties around the house, cook, clean, vacuum, laundry. The more and more I did,the less sex I got. Because she was always to tired, to this, too that. She would make excuses about sex. She could not keep her time line straight the last time we had sex. If we had sex last Saturday night and I wanted it again the following Saturday night. She would say we had sex Thursday night, tow nights ago. she would be dead serious, no kidding around. It was like she was trying to control our diet of sex. Like it was too soon. BTW we do not have any children. We have had some pretty heated arguments over my sexual wants.
When we do have sex it is pretty good sex where she has mutiple O's. We have role played, she has toys, oils, lubes, etc. But then she acts like sex is no big deal. IF I were to stop asking for it, she would be just fine with it.
Again we are working it out. I just wish she would want to push the envelope more when it comes to sex. I want to do and try everything there is about sex FFM,MMF, swing, swap at least once if not twice maybe more.
Now what is really confusing is that there are women out there who want sex every day and husbands who never want it. Darn are we a messed up or what? How did we as a human race ever evolve into a complex society that we are if we cant even get smoothing as sexual desires and needs satisfied.
Take care and have a good weekend.
Male65401
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My wife has said pretty much the same thing.She was partially raised byher by hermother who taught her young ladies do not do things like that. Unless they were married and to always let the man lead.
Now her other grandmother was very strict church going lady. She believed sex was only for procreation. There are some messed up females from my wife's side this grandmother helped raised. They have some strong emotional issues when it comes to sex and intimacy to where some of these ladies have had to seek treatment from counselors because they were taught sex was dirty. They were trying to fight off natural body urges verses what grandma taught them. It is part of a deep subject on that part of the family. My wife and I are so happy this lady did not raise her.
Again do women actually want sex. Yes I do belive they do. I just did not marry one who wants sex as much as I do. Even though I am 41 years old and still horny like 15 year old boy with a Hustler magazine. SWING!
Male65401
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