Do You Believe in Sexual Addiction?(N...
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| Sun, 08-29-2004 - 8:52pm |
Do You Believe in Sexual Addiction?(Not Porn)
- Yes
- Yes, but only in rare circumstances
- No
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Leticia
Leticia
i was watching halle berry on oprah the other day, and she was talking about her previous partner having a sex addiction and she overlooked it for a long time.
I truly believe she became addicted to the sex, to the thrill of a new conquest, the 'passion' and fun of a new partner instead of the same one year after year. I don't think it was that she was that unhappy at first and looking for something new, but once started it gained speed until it was out of control. We all know those hours of making out with someone new, the hours of foreplay and titillating, tantalizing conversation, as opposed to just climbing into bed with your partner of years. I think she became addicted to it, to the sex, to knowing just how appealing she could be to someone new. I haven't talked to her in awhile and I hope things are going well. She was at the point of realizing just how destructive her behavior had been and the board wasn't necessarily a good place for her. But I think I've witnessed sexual addiction in her. It was sad.
When it comes to cheating, especially constant cheating, there are people who love the attention as well as the pleasure of sex.
Also, there are people out there who aren't even sexually active with a partner at all who enjoy it occasion, in other words, a lot more often than what would be construed as normal. I believe the message board called Solo Sex may be a good place for a question like this as well.
Many "addicts" if you will have reported that the pleasure is as intoxicating as alcohol and gambling and drugs and you name it. Same excuse that rapists use the power to control. In fact, many couples still suffer clashing libidos because of excessive or out of control sexual urges.
YES, I do believe there is such an addiction in sex that keeps one from controlling him/herself when it comes to sex and what it can lead to.
Just my two cents. :)
C h a r a c t e r
above all else
Mr. Para
C H A R A C T E R
I too voted 'yes'. I believe that people can become addicted to anything that pulls them from reality. However, having said that, I believe things about addiction that are a little different. I believe those that become addicted to sex (maybe drugs too) are searching for love. During sex (as most of us know) our hearts open greatly, we become vulnerable and we allow love to flow through us from the inside out and from the outside in. Even masturbation has that aspect (although in my opinion somewhat less). Those that become addicted to sex are looking for the expereience of love because they don't realize that the most profound love that we can experience comes from within ourselves. If we realize that, than we have no "need" for another...rather, we choose to share our love with another because there is so much inside. If both partners experience this, they are deep in the rapture of Divine love. They are together by choice and not forced to be together because the "need" enslaves them.
I think all addiction on some level is this same thing and to heal addiction you must deeply love and accept yourself and that includes loving the addiction. You must see yourself completely loving and loved. When that happens sex becomes a physical union of the two Universal creating forces and becomes a pathway to God and that driving desire to recreate this feeling over and over is completely satisfied.
Peace.
Scott.