Do you end a realtionship over sex issue

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Do you end a realtionship over sex issue
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Mon, 06-20-2005 - 11:31am
Hey to all! It's me again! I am the one who has just started having sex and as I mentioned before my partner is very small in that department. I know you all have said to try different positions and the more we have sex the better it will get. Well, we had sex this weekend with me on top, it didn't help. He loved it, but he still didn't hit my spot. I think it is impossible for me to orgasm during intercourse. I also worried that he would get off quicker ( I wasn't sure when he would cum) and I wanted to prolong intercourse in hopes of orgasm so we switched back to the missionary position. Plus while I was on top he kept slipping out of me at times. His size has to be an issue! I care for him and since he was my first I would like to continue to be with him. BUT I am so curious to experience sex with someone else to see if I am more pleased with it. He talks as if we are going to have a long future together, but the sex just isn't doing it for me. Is sex a reason to end a realtionship? How can I make this better and satisfy myself and my curiousity? I am more stimulated with his finger inside me and I asked him to continue to mess with me to see if I could get off, but I hope he wasn't offended by me loving that. He SO WANTS to please me, but I don't think I will be completely satisfied until I orgasm during intercourse!

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Wed, 06-22-2005 - 2:00pm

I told you he was small. lol! I am pretty sure it's 3- 3 1/2 inches erect! If I understand from prior posts, the average is about 6 inches, correct?

You have given me some relief to know that he is capable of reaching my spot! That gives me more hope! Although, any other comments or advice is welcome. =)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-22-2005 - 2:48pm

Actually, I think the average is anywhere between 4.5 to 6.5" erect. So, your guy is on the smaller side but not that much smaller than average.

Has your guy ever talked with a urologist regarding his size? I know that there is a procedure which releases tight ligament-type tissues in the penis that MAY be keeping it from lengthening all the way. Might be something to consider discussing with his dr.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Wed, 06-22-2005 - 2:48pm
You can also straddle him while he's laying flat and rub yourself on his erection-- sliding it through your vulva and over your clitoris in a back and forth motion. All of that excess lubrication will come in handy. It's very erotic and you may even learn to orgasm easily from it. It will boost his ego knowing that his erection gave you such pleasure. Length or girth not required. ;-)
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-22-2005 - 2:50pm
Excellent suggestion, Rain. I do this all the time because it's such a pleasurable way to reach orgasm.

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