Do you HAVE to shower before sex??
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Do you HAVE to shower before sex??
| Thu, 07-21-2005 - 5:10pm |
i have this thing that i HaVE to shower before sex, otherwise i feel smelly and gross. i guess what started this was hearing guys talk about girls being nasty. because i have to bathe, i really cant have spontanous sex with my husband. does anyone else do this or do you have any suggestions for me?

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Do I HAVE to shower before sex? No. Do I like to before having oral sex? Yes, if I can. But I also like my DH to be clean for that as well. I think that's just showing common courtesy for your partner. However, some men greatly enjoy a woman's natural aroma and prefer it to a soap smell.
I don't enjoy the smell of a dirty body anymore than the average person does, whether it's mine or DH's. HOWEVER, if you're allowing the insensitive remarks of random males to ruin your spontaneity with your hubby, then you're cheating him and yourself!
All that should matter to you is what your DH thinks and if he's fine with your natural aromas, then put those remarks in perspective and ignore what other men may think. I do.
As long as we bathe daily and practice general good hygiene, we're as clean as the next person. No extra cleaning or special attention needed simply because we're women though.
Don't allow these negative comments to affect how you feel about your natural body...you're giving WAY too much power to other people if you do.
I'm a guy, and while I don't really feel the need for anyone to shower before intercourse, I have to admit that I do prefer my partner to have either showered or at least "freshened up" with a damp facecloth before oral sex. Likewise, I prefer to freshen up before fellatio. After a long busy day some areas get a bit whiffy and it's nice to have them cleaned if you're putting your face and mouth anywhere near them.
Guys in general might be more outspoken and rude about girls being "nasty" but I think if you hang around the boards here you'll get another perspective on the issue. There are plenty of guys that like the strong musky aroma of a healthy woman. I think that describing the odour as "nasty" is just typical male bravado and insensitivity, or it could reflect an unfortunate run-in with a yeast infection or something. I don't think that it's really the honest belief that most men have.
I don't feel I need to shower before having sex.
DW is obsessed with bathing or showering first. So much so that the sex often doesn't happen. The other day I managed to get her naked 6 hours after a bath and she had just mowed the lawn. Very musky. She refused to allow oral. But the sex was great...in part due to the odours.
My last GF didn't clean often enough...I didn't appreciate urine taste (oral) or feces odour (doggie style). She figured one shower a day with no soap "down there" was enough. Not true.
I don't let her go down there with her mouth unless I know I'm recently clean...she dated a few guys who were "gross" as she says...sometimes coming over to her place after sex with another woman but not even cleaning themselves.
I like a jacuzzi or hot-tub before oral but it interferes with lubrication forintercourse.
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I had an ex who would call and tell me to take a shower before he came over. I started to think he had a bathrobe and wet hair fetish...Turns out he wanted me 'clean' - no matter how sweaty and smelling he was.
Yeah - he was strange.
Personally, I tend to freshen up a bit before because, with me, sex tends to be a little spontaneous. But if I KNOW for sure it's going to happen - I take a shower.
Blessings -
Liz
You have written only about you, and not your man's preference - whether he likes you to shower or not. You will be surprised. If you ask me, please don't shower, whats the fun when I bury my face in DW's underarm and get soap instead of the woman-scent ? My nose just loves to roam into all the nooks and crannies, even down there at the backdoor too and I assure you it is not looking for soap.
Don't believe the guys who talk about girls being nasty. They are just show-offs (I bet these guys that you heard are just a memory of your teen years when you heard the boys gossiping).
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