Do you have vaginal orgasms?

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Do you have vaginal orgasms?
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Sat, 04-10-2004 - 11:08pm

Do you have vaginal orgasms?



  • Yes, always
  • Yes, more than 50% of my orgasms are vaginal
  • Yes, about 25% of my orgasms are vaginal
  • Yes, but not very often
  • Yes, but I must have simultaneous clitoral stimulation
  • No, I only have clitoral orgasms
  • No, I have never had an orgasm


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Registered: 12-29-2003
Sun, 04-11-2004 - 7:15am
Sugarbeat, I'm trying to answer your poll for my DF because she won't go near these boards (she loves to make love, she leaves the discussion of it to me). I'm not sure which choice to select and maybe you can help me. I could say "Yes, always" because she orgasms every time we have intercourse. But we don't always have intercourse( when we don't have much time or don't feel up to it, I just stimulate her digitally or orally), so maybe I need to choose "Yes, more than 50% of my orgasms are vaginal". Maybe it's "Yes, but I must have simultaneous clitoral stimulation". She doesn't really analyze out exactly what spots are being hit, but I'm pretty sure some of my thrusting provides indirect clitoral stimulation, not to mention G-spot stimulation. So which one do you think I should select?
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Registered: 10-30-2003
Sun, 04-11-2004 - 8:23am
Taoist, if it were me, I'd answer the question for the times you actually have intercourse.

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Sun, 04-11-2004 - 10:34am
"Yes, always" means the only way she comes is vaginal orgasms given through vaginal stimulation whether through intercourse or digitally (i.e. she doesn't receive direct or indirect clitoral stimulation). If she doesn't orgasm vaginally unless she has direct or indirect clitoral stimulation, then I would mark "yes, but i must have simultaneous clitoral stimulation." If sometimes she comes from clitoral stimulation and other times solely from vaginal stimulation, mark one of the other yes answers.

From your other posts it seems like you are able to distinguish when a woman has a vaginal or clitoral orgasm. If you aren't sure, can't you just ask her?

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Sun, 04-11-2004 - 10:57am
>>From your other posts it seems like you are able to distinguish when a woman has a vaginal or clitoral orgasm. If you aren't sure, can't you just ask her?<<

I think you meant "unable" not "able". I can distinguish whether she has an orgasm while we're having intercourse. We don't do any kind of direct clitoral stimulation, but I assume indirect clitoral stimulation plays a role, as does G-spot stimulation because of some of the positions and thrusting techniques we use. As far as asking her goes, she can't answer because she doesn't analyze what she's feeling, she just enjoys it. I think this is probably one of the reasons she always orgasms. BTW, I voted "Yes, always" because she always orgasms several times during intercourse and in every position we've tried. I was following Yasmin's suggestion on this.

taoist.

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Registered: 12-24-2003
Sun, 04-11-2004 - 11:12am
Without bringing my fingers into the frey, I can't rub my wife's clit. There are some positions like doggie, where the clit does not come in contact with my pelvis at all no matter how much grinding I do. So, if she can O from doggie, I'm pretty darned sure that's strictly vaginal.

Regarding the answers to the poll; I answered for my wife, Yes, but I must have simultaneous clitoral stimulation. We've talked about this before and she's now to the point where she really isn't sure if she's had vaginal orgasms.

She can get to a point when I'm really deep and just giving her short strokes that she says she needs to stop because it feels so good?? She can discern quite clearly when it's clitoral... actually so can the next door neighbors. But that's another thing.

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Sun, 04-11-2004 - 12:28pm
What about G-spot stimulation? Maybe that's what you're stimulating with the deep strokes you describe. I think also doggie style is definitely supposed to be more likely to stimulate the G-spot. And I'm not sure that your pelvis has to provide the indirect clitoral stimulation. I've heard that the pulling on the labial lips during penetration can also provide some indirect stimulation to the clitoris.

taoist.
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Registered: 12-24-2003
Mon, 04-12-2004 - 11:16pm
Wow, this is interesting. 70% of women that read this (7+19+2 out of 40) can have vaginal orgasms. Much higher than I'd imagined. Hmm makes one think... most women on this board I'd consider sexually adept, more knowledgable about their bodies, and open & frank communicators. Can these attributes be partly why those who can do?

Responding to taoistnovice; I always thought the g-spot was about 3 inches or so? The deep rubbing is either right before the cervix (AFE), cervical (I'm careful not to bang head on), or the posterior fornix (CDS).

Regarding the labial lips, good point. I hadn't thought of that.

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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 1:02pm
i'm really surprised by the results of this poll. of those who responded, almost 70% have vaginal orgasms more often than not. this seems contrary to my conversations with female friends and what i've seen on this board over the years. anyone else surprised?
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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 3:14pm
I think it has to do with individual definitions of "vaginal orgasms." I could say that I have them, too, but only when there is direct clitoral contact, through positioning or manually, accompanying the penetration.
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Registered: 12-29-2003
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 4:59pm
Yes, Yes, Yes, Kat. Stimulating the clitoris is all part of this! Maybe you use direct digital contact, others use positioning and other, less direct methods. Maybe you consider the G-spot just a part of the clitoris. Notice, I always say "orgasms from intercourse", but they are orgasms that occur while he is in the vagina. Only ONE woman I've ever heard has advocated ignoring the clitoris. Everyone else talks about its importance and particularly notes that orgasming first from digital or oral increases the probability of orgasms during intercourse.

taoist.

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