Do you have wine to get in the mood?
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Do you have wine to get in the mood?
| Fri, 07-14-2006 - 5:40pm |
How many of you have wine to get in the mood? I don't usually drink wine, but I have a hard time trying to relax and get in the mood to have sex. Do you think a glass of wine could help me? If so, which kinds are good? :o)


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I only drink alcohol occasionally but I never have to have a drink to relax or get in the mood for sex.
Sometimes. I don't think one or two glasses of wine is harmful and in fact, most drs. say it's actually good for you. Unless, of course, you have a problem with alcohol to begin with.
Try several kinds of wine to figure out what you like. That's really the only way to find out. You can order wine by the glass at most restaurants so that you don't have to buy a whole bottle you may not like. You might consider going on a romantic wine-tasting weekend sometime.
I agree with Tish that you shouldn't use wine to cover up other problems that effect your relaxation.
That aside though, if you can already relax just fine (work on that first), wine gives you a different kind of drunk. I don't really like drinking and I hate being drunk unless it's wine. It's a different kind of drunk and the sex is also different and incredable! The occasioninal romantic, passionate wine sex drives me wield.
I only need to be around my SO to be "in the mood".
There's nothing wrong with drinking a little before sex, but that's not always possible, either. Better to figure out why you can't relax, and you aren't in the mood. Maybe you're not with the right person. Maybe you're not in the mood because he's not the one for you. Maybe he's not doing whatever he should to GET you in the mood and relaxed. It's called being romantic, and then foreplay.
Alcohol is not something to rely on for "false courage". There's nothing wrong with a drink of wine, but too much and it becomes a depressant, and that's not what you want.
What kind is good is up to you. What kind do you like? There are basically only two kinds, red, and white. They all contain the same amount of alcohol, so it comes down to what ever kind tastes good to YOU.
Wines usually have between 10% and 14% alcohol. Yes, it varies, but very little. As for the types of wine, of course there are great variations. $2.00 a bottle wine isn't going to be the same as $100.00 a bottle. But for someone who's asking what kind is good, she's obviously not experienced with wine......I'm sure she's not going to go into a wine shop and get the $100.00 stuff.
There's no way of knowing what you like until you try it. Some people like Maneschevitz, sweet as syrup, other's like something dryer....but there's no way of telling someone what THEY will like, or how it will affect them. I can't drink red wine even though I like the taste of it.....it gives me a headache.....because of the tannin in it. It doesn't bother other people.
I suppose that we are moderate social drinkers. We probably drink two or more glasses of wine maybe twice a week on average. We have been known to go out at times socialising with friends and to have (even quite recently) gotten very drunk.
Do we need wine to get into the mood? No.
Have I personally drunk wine in the past to enhance sex? Well, yeah, I suppose that I have. A bit of alcohol can make you relaxed and lower your inhibitions and put a bit of a buzz on. If you drink more and end up drunk, drunken sex *can* be fun. But it's just as likely to be a disaster too.
Do I drink wine to get into the mood now? No, not really. I admit that I might have a couple of glasses to relax before sex but I'm not specifically drinking to make sex easier or better.
I think a better option would be to try and figure out what it is about sex that makes you feel nervous and tense. If you are comfortable with this man that you are having sex with, why do you feel tense when sex is about to happen?
If you've never drunk wine before, try a medium white wine. Not sure what part of the world you are in so the others more local will be able to recommend something in particular. You might like to try a Zinfandel or medium Riesling or even a Muller Thurgau (that might be too flowery and sweet though). Medium, dry, and sweet refer to how sweet the wine is. A dry wine is not sweet and usually an acquired taste for someone new to drinking wine.
Alcohol is a depressant, so I'd never use it before sex as I like to be as fully 'present' with all my senses as possible for the experience.
If I'm not relaxed, a nice bath/massage prior to sex can work wonders and can often lead directly into foreplay.
Edited 7/15/2006 11:10 pm ET by mr_e_steubing
Hey! Looks like someone got his computer fixed! Welcome back, E!
Actually, alcohol isn't a depressant in moderation, one or two drinks. When abused, yes, it can be a depressant.
Edited 7/17/2006 6:00 pm ET by katmandoo2001
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